Anal Sex - How Much Is Too Much?

Jennifer: Hi, we are back again with our good friend Paul Carson. He is a life coach here in Dallas Texas. And over the next few videos, we are actually going to try to answer some of your toughest questions in the way that it is non-judgmental and just kind of our normal and it is not—how do I want to say it, in a way that only we can do it. Dan: Yes, that works. So, what if you too viewers, unfortunately, wants you put a really, really large object up his girlfriend’s butt. No, really we are not making this up. First, his fist or even a large flashlight, wherein on the first try—there’s no way, that is just not a good idea. Jennifer: Ouch! That is what came to mind, Ouch! Dan: But unfortunately, he is not the only person asking this question. Emergency rooms are full of people who have shut all kinds of things up there and in all seriousness. And we have been talking animals so it is just cruel and unnatural and bad. So, can we just—no animal’s guys okay. No animals, just keep that simple. But, we get so many question, we are surely not against anal sex by any means but Paul you said you would talk about anything. So, here it is what are your thought on putting hard objects up your partners anus which some folks really want to do. Paul: I am not sure I should be doing this. Jennifer: Yes. How’s you’re going to get yourself into? Paul: Okay, we’ll answer—we will answer the questions. Dan: See, this is what happens if you say you don’t answer anything. It will happen. Paul: They will come up with anything. Dan: Yes. Jennifer: We will. Paul: The bottom line to it is that, that the anal channel is designed for specific purpose. And that purpose includes being able to expand and contract, okay—to a point. Dan: I was going to say it. Paul: —too much to a point, okay. Yes, there are people that get in to all of these kinds of extremes forms of sex and you can say well, they wanted it and they agreed to it or whatever. But how do you explain that to their parents when they’re in the emergency room in a hospital and they have to tell what happened. Many, many years ago, I was at a cocktail party with family and friends and these are people that I grew up with and I really had a good time. Well, one of the women there, this couple, was an RN at a local hospital. And she was freaked out, they were talking about all kinds of weird stuff, and this came up and she was talking about where this guy came in and they had taken a light bulb, a regular shape light bulb that is shaped like this. They put the big end in first and of course it sucks the rest in and there is no way to get it out because once that pincher closes, it is there. Dan: Oh my God! Paul: Put your hands down, they cannot see the face. They want to see your reaction. Dan: Yes, I do not think I want to see my face after that one. Paul: No, it is really simple—the bottom line is ouch. Dan: Those things can break. Paul: Okay, well the point was, that the only way it could get off is to break it. They had to actually break it and then do a surgery to get it out. The point here is that things can go too far, okay. Dan: Yes. Paul: And people can spend—they can do all kinds of damage to that part of their body and that lasts for the rest of your lifetime. I know that there are some people into this but you have to understand that there are also people that are masochist. There are people that are sadist and there are people that are masochist. Masochist of course by liking to be abused in pain and we are not going to get into all that. But, the bottom line is given in that situation, there is a difference between role playing and taking things too far. Dan: Yes. Paul: If they are into anal sex, I understand all that but you have to make sure that the channel is voided before you start whatever you do, that it is cleaned out, that you use a good water based lubricant. Dan: Lots of lubricant. Paul: And be reasonable. Dan: Yes. Paul: Be reasonable. Understand, you know, a lot of times people liked that kind of activity because it represents a tight channel, let