Ask Him Out Again If He Already Said No?
Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are talking about dating success for women.
The topic for this video is, should you ask him out again, if he said already one time “no” to you? Imagine that you are working with this guy, for instance, and you went in a casual way as I mentioned in the other video how to ask him out. You go in your casual and say, “Want to join me for a drink? I am going with a couple of friends after work, Why not come with us?” If you ask him out already, and he said no, there are some situations where it is going to be suitable to ask him again out in another time.
Now, you have to check your limit situation right because there are different reasons why he might say no. He finds that he has a girlfriend already, or he is married and you still try to get him, to come on a date with you, and he says, “No, you know, I am committed to, I am with a girlfriend and that would not be a good idea.” Obviously, asking him out again would be a little bit pushy.
So, leave it, you go and find another man because this one is already taken. But, not fine because if he said no in a casual way. He said, for instance, “No, I am working a little bit late. Today is not a good time for me” Then, you can wait a couple of weeks to a month, and try again. So, you know, “I am going out for a drink, join me.” Something like that.
Now, it is good to not repeat your invitation too soon. If you go after him again the following day to ask him and if he said no yesterday and you go back to him today, it would sound a bit pushy, or demanding or a bit needy. It is not the right message that I want to say now. So, wait for a couple of weeks to a month that would be ideal and again, ask him out in a very causal way. He must feel that it is not the commitment, that he is not committing himself to a life with you because he comes and have a drink with you. It has to be causal in the beginning. It has to be about creating chemistry. Again, it is much easier to go on a drink with a girl than to go on a first date, you know, really something that sounds official, right? So, you want to keep it casual and asking a lot, casually.
Again, if you did not check the video on how to ask him out, go and check it out. It is on my channel wherever you are looking this video from. If you do not find it on the channel where you are in right now, go back to vitalcoaching.com and check Dating Success for Women. The channel there the Dating Success for Women are real and you have dozens of videos on this topic.
You know, it has to say about that, I would say go for it, really. There is nothing to be ashamed of when you ask a guy out, you can repeat that, you can actually repeat it maybe a couple of times. If you already invited him out, you know, for instance for a party or for something, really you may need some friends, or something right on that time and he keeps rejecting, or refusing to come, then obviously, he is not that much into you and he is not too responsive to that. But I would say maybe two, three times maximum, if you explained it to her, you know, it be one to two months, that is what would be more or less acceptable. Really, sometimes, a guy will be a little seeking, work too late or he has other things in his mind, or he might be dating somebody already and two weeks later, it is already over, you know, that can be opportunities or situations in his life, where things shift and change.
So, the best way for you not to take too much of a risk is again to stay with you in a casual setting, you know, “I am going out for a drink, come and join me, or meet me on Saturday night, 8:00 I will be there with some friends.” These kind of things, this is very light, it is very casual and is non committing and it is very easy for a guy to say “Yes” to such an invitation.
And, again, when you ask him out on a date, you are not asking him for a commitment. He has to know that. It is really a light flirty connection that you are having. You are going to, you know, to simply be having a light conversation with him over a coffee. That is it.
All of these make sense. You have a great day and take care. Bye-bye.
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