Hi there, this is Alex from succeedatdating.com. Welcome back to another video training session. In this video training session, I’m going to reveal to you two things. Two things you can take away from this and that is how to get the kind of respect you’ve always wanted from women that you never got before and how to be taken seriously by a women from the first point of contact which is the first point of impact.
Before I do that, I want to tell you a very quick story that happened to me so many times and you can probably relate to this as well; whereas you’re walking to a bar and usually in the corner, you look over and you see, one guy that isn’t rich. It isn’t famous, that isn’t good looking is surrounded by two or three of that bars or night clubs, most attractive women.
And do you ever stop and wonder go —I wonder what he has that I don’t. I wonder what attractive traits or characteristics that he has that I can work on to get that kind of same result. It’s nice to think that all the time. And I would say that like “wow, you know, how can I get those women around my arm and I started walking up to of these guys and ask them questions and offering to buy them a drink and I realize that some of these guys, some of these alpha males, share the very similar characteristic and that was, they were just so more relaxed. Their body language, the way they spoke and they spoke very slow as if—and they move very slowly as well. It was just as if they are under water like moving very slowly.
Their voice tonality, they are going up and down, not a monotone voice but the fact going high, going low, going deep, going soft, they are going strong. They spoke from the diaphragm. They didn’t slatch, didn’t have a hunch back. They had straightened shoulders. They spoke with confidence and dignity. Every movement they had had a purpose. They didn’t touch their face and brush their hair and scratch their ear or if they did it was because it was a reflex because their ear was itchy and not because they were nervous or insecure or in doubt.
They never put their hands in their pocket, it was always by their sides or around of a girl. And I realize that this is something we can all work on and we’ve all heard the whole theory that 4% of that words count and the rest of it, the 96% of that is your body language and your voice tonality; by the way you speak. Are you going up? Are you going down, I or do you have very straight monotone voice because that could be very as boring.
People can't pay attention to you after a while if you have a very straight boring monotone voice. Are you moving slowly? Are you being taken seriously from the first point of contact? Because if you're not, you may want to try this technique at. And this helped me lot.
About five years ago, I did this. Basically I took a handful of coins and spare change. So, be it would be ones and pieces, fives and pieces, dimes, quarters. You just have bunches of it and I know you do have some. You have some in jars, on the bottom of drawer that you just collect, right.
This is how you can put that to some good use and you don’t even have to spend any money, isn’t that great. Basically you take two handfuls of that and you put one handful in your right hand, side your pocket and the left handful into your left side of your pocket. So basically, you weigh down both sides by these coins and then you practice walking up and down. Looking up and down and then back and if you hear the coins clink against each other, it means you’re walking too fast. If you don’t hear, it means you’re walking perfectly.
And I notice that when I started doing this, several things started happening to the way I spoke. I started speaking a lot slower. I started not being in a rush to get anywhere, I as in a rush to get everywhere at one point. I didn’t have an appointed. I just started walking very fast and personally that is unattractive.
I started speaking a lot slower. I started speaking deeper. I noticed that I started deep breathing, very deeper and from the diaphragm, I spoke from the diaphragm. I spoke with confidence and conviction. I stopped speaking from here.
I notice that several of these things happen just because I started training my body to walk slower. To react a lot slow. The reaction time is very important. A lot of guys usually, they are very nervous and on edge and if you call out their name, they are like, ‘what?’ They are very looking around very fast and their eye contact is very shifty, always shifting from place to place. If you just relax that eyes that if you just stop being in a rush; look everywhere, you’ll have more for presence, you’d be more in the moment and women will start taking you more seriously.
I noticed that, when I started, being a lot more relaxed. When I started speaking a lot more slower and using a lot more pauses. The women were just captivated and they stood their and they listened to me, making solid eye contact with me. I wouldn’t break my eye contact unless they broke it first.
I started not being rejected as much. Women, I’ve got phone numbers, I didn’t get as many flanks. This is a great technique to try out. The next time you go out, try this technique. You don’t have that book, coins in your pockets right? But that’s a great practice technique to do at home. To just start walking slow, it's not speaking slowly. You use a lot more pauses.
You watch a lot of video clips of Bill Clinton because he does fantastic, it's through his speeches are so timed. He pauses every time he gets asked a question, even if it’s a very simple one and he can answer to a merely second. He keeps it consistent and he pauses. He let’s the question mold over in his head and then he answers it. He always comes across of what more intellectual and sophisticated and more knowledgeable at the topic with his pauses. So you might want to get this a try as well.
I hope this video has helped you. I do hope you do out and you do give this try. You’ll notice that women will start taking you more seriously and you’ll start getting a lot more respect from your friends, your colleagues and some of these girls you talked to. Give this a try and if you want more videos just like this one, head over to succeedatdating.com. I’ll see you later.
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