Host: How does this orientation of lovemaking change the experience?
Chris Wright: This experience of lovemaking changes the experience completely, in this orientation in pure lovemaking; it takes on a whole different meaning than we have in conventional sex. In sex the whole focus is again, is on trying to get each other turned on, get each other sexually excited, the more sexually excited, the better the job that you are doing. In lovemaking it is the completely different experience, a different orientation, a different meaning. The focus is on coming together to connect to celebrate, to be intimate, to be close, to connect to these more subtle, more loving energies together to enliven them, to absorb them within each other.
Basking in these currents, in these life force energies together takes on a whole different experience. The experience in sex is trying to develop up, build it up to a peak experience, where as in love making, the whole focus is on just delighting in these delicious, refined, heartfelt, rich, meaningful energies together. When you look in America, the statistics shows that, sex in America from the beginning to the end, last an average of seven minutes from when you start to when it is over, seven minutes is what the average is for sex.
Lovemaking again, a whole different realm here, in lovemaking we are looking to save our each moment by moment enfoldment of these incredibly rich, pleasurable energies that are flowing interacting together. There is a sense of being able to use our full awareness to absorb the masculine and feminine mystical connection and take it into the source of or to the core of our being and feel it fully, as it unfolds, it is been incredibly fulfilling experience to have.
The experience you could unfold where sometimes it is discovering and creative, other times it is passionate, intense, other times it is more exploration or more fun or light. All those energies can come and go just -- you will see that the nervous system is what directs the whole experience, whatever the nervous need together, that is where the experience tends to go, sometimes sublime, sometime much more passionate. But it all goes innocently to what is needed in the experience.
It can go on for 15 minutes, it can go on for 30 minutes and it can go on for an hour or more and delighting in these energies together. It could go on for just five minutes, just to tap in to these energies, it would be five minutes of eternity. It is incredible experience to share in and the experience you start in love, there is no where to get to in seven minutes and so each moment you feel complete in love, each moment is the celebration of love, a connection of love, a vulnerability together.
So, every moment is fulfilling, there is never a let down, there is never a drop. Also in this experience of lovemaking the orgasm tends to be different. In conventional sex, the whole focus is to build up to a peak orgasm or climax together which last maybe 15 seconds. In this type of lovemaking the whole focus shifts to where the orgasm last for 15 hours. There is a sense of instead of building up to a peak where you at the end you get this major discharge of pleasurable energies as blissful as that can feel, in lovemaking the focus. And the approach is completely different, it is not about building up to a peak, it is about this energy builds up in the heart and starts to expand up throughout the whole body.
Starts to reverberate through about every part of yourself, every cell is reverberating in this incredibly stimulating, wonderfully rich meaningful energy together and these synopsis keeps firing for hours thereafter. The sense of sweetness the sense of connection, the sense of bliss continues to continue envelop the people like a glow inside. So, there is not -- as a result of this the experience tends to be very fulfilling and men tend not to ejaculate as often in this experience. So as the result they tend to feel the sense of potency, they tend to feel the sense of strength, they do not discharge and release all their energies, where they feel the sense of contraction or the sense of pulling back or a sense of emptiness inside. No, it is always a sense of fullness, always a sense of attractiveness towards your partner.
They could again make love in 15 minutes, an hour, three hour, six hours later, always available to connect in closeness and love together not out of need, but out of attractiveness, out of innocence, out of enjoying that love connection together. So, the experience is completely a different orientation a different experience when you are making love than when you are having sex.
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