Cheating and Infidelity - How Do I Move Past ...

Jennifer Hi, this question is from Olrika from South Africa. Did I say that right? Dan I think so. Jennifer Dear Dan and Jennifer, Hello! I read your article on the free library and it connected with me. I am very insecure to the extent that I am destroying my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been dating now for almost three years. He has been sincere but somehow, I still manage not to have any faith in him or are you thirsty? Dan I was really thirsty. I had to have one right now. Jennifer My ex had cheated on me and ex is plural I believe. And my boyfriend now, says that I am caring it over into our relationship. I hate the fact that I am becoming such a monster, that I cannot control my thoughts and that I am loosing the man I want to have as a husband. How does one let go and let things be? How can I solve my problems? How can I clear my head and heart and move forward? And where do I start and what should I do? That is a lot of question Dan Yes Jennifer Same basic answer though I think. Dan Thank for it is a same basic issue and the same basic answer, I think you are right. And something that I always say, is you really keep repeating the same pattern until you can let go of the emotions underneath that are really causing this insecurity which is appearing as decisions in your life. Jennifer Yes, I mean one of the things you can do, you just kind of seat back and recognize when you start having those feelings that is something I have really learned recently is to start recognizing when you are starting to have this feeling and then kind of watch the thoughts that follow that kind of chemical serge or whatever. And you can recognize it as starting to happen but the important thing is to really examine those emotions. I mean it could be from your childhood, it could be from your past boyfriends, experiences there. It could even be DNA past down from your parents. I mean these emotions and feelings come from all kinds of places. And you know, our recommendation is to truly seek counseling from somebody who can help because we are not doctors, we cannot give you all the answers that you want to know. Dan But you want to know bias and third party that a counters, a counters that counselor, a hypno therapist, someone that watch with biases people have. But someone with bias ideas like Jennifer yes and there is tons of books you can read on. You know healing yourself emotionally, emotional healing, energy healing, there are books out there that you can read. So, just take that first step and start trying to recognize what is happening to you as it happens.