Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating successful women and the topic for this video is coming on too strong, yes, it turns off guys, it is dating in the evening now. And I thought I will give you quick recording or quick video on this topic because a couple of years ago, I have been interviewing a few guys on this topic. I was asking them what are the key things that turn you on or turn you off? What are the elements or aspects of the woman’s personality or attitude which are really going to get excited about knowing her and which ones are the ones that are going to be turn offs and the thing that really surprise me was that for many guys mentioned that coming on too strong easily turns off and they have been absolutely turned off by women coming on them too strong.
So what does it mean exactly? How do you come on the guy too strong? It is simply when you invade his space too fast. You simply cannot physically when you are speaking to him too close, too fast, even if you are gorgeous, even if you are extremely good looking, extremely attractive, he would still feel like you are invading his space and you give him the feeling that you are extremely desperate or extremely needy and if you wonder whether you play that kind of game. So coming too close or too fast, that is one way of turning off or coming on too strong. Now the thing that you can do which is going to be along the same line is if you get his phone number and you start sending him dozens of text messages in a day, it can be five, ten text messages, you can call him too frequently, you can email him too many messages, these kind of things are also turn offs because you show too much focus, too much interest, it looks like you star being a bit obsessed by him and that is not the message you to show to give.
You want to show him that still have a life and that you are not obsessing about him, right. That is another thing, another element that can be a turn off in all the same night is being too loud. Sometimes you are at the club and you have been drinking maybe a bit too much and you start speaking very loud and you start losing your mind, you no longer exactly what you are doing and sometimes you will not even remember what you have been doing so in this kind of situation, maybe you are going to do things which are going to be a bit inappropriate. And yes, guys have their boundaries as well, again, even if you are attractive and if you are extremely friendly, you would still sometimes feel like you are a bit invading his space too much. So respect the boundaries, respect his space and you will see that you build up attraction in a much more mutual way. If you give him space to build attraction and feel attracted to you and he will eventually reciprocate and then and then you come closer at the time when you are both ready for this to happen.
Another thing that can be a turn off is claiming him or heading as if you were belonging to each other already. This is another turn off because you are already claiming him and he fells already like almost like you are limiting his space and limiting his mind and totally focusing on him. And very often, a guy will enjoy keeping his freedom even though he is dating you, even if he is attracted by you, it is still very good to give him space and allow him to simply focus on his life so do not behave as he was belonging to you already and do not claim him. I know that this are maybe things that you are doing the past, if you have been behaving like that, no problem, forgive yourself, you will learn, simply experience approaching guys with more open attitude and a bit softer, right?
But again it is already your experience so forgive yourself and if you have not been dating lately, remember that simply before you go out, keep it in mind because it is a very important strategy. Guys I mention that frequently so it is something that matters to them. Okay, I hope this makes sense, if you have any questions or suggestions for videos, feel free to post on my comments in my main channel page and I will be happy to see what I can do. Hope you enjoy, have a great weekend, great evening, take care and enjoy, bye-bye.
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