Hi, this is Peter Murphy here from howtotalkwithconfidence.com. Today we are going to be talking about easy communication confidence or an easier way for us to develop a lasting communication confidence that lets us to have much more fun when we are talking to people. More specifically, I will be teaching you the Hollywood solution which is an easy way to go from where you are today to having much more confidence, to be much more effective in all your dealings with other people.
Let us talk a little first of all about how we get stuck when it comes to talking to people. A lot of us worry about what to say and we might even worry about boring people. However this negative attitude actually makes the problem even worst, we start to worry about looking stupid and then we tense up. We get nervous, we get stuck for words and then our confidence goes down hill and we get self conscious. So what we actually really need is what I call communication confidence, when a communication skills and we need confidence and we need to put the two together so we can be at our best whenever we want to be.
Let us talk about our goal, what is our desired outcome, how do we want to be when we are talking to people. Well what we really want is to be relaxed and to be at ease talking to anyone. We want to have confidence and we want to let our personality shine and enjoy talking to people. So obviously we then will be happier and we will have much more fun with the people we already know and even when meeting new people and ultimately this is all about expressing yourself clearly and letting your voice be heard.
What then is the Hollywood solution? The Hollywood solution is a simple way to train yourself to be at your very best, so that whenever you need to be you could communicate effectively and win all the confidence that you need. The way we are going to do this is by using peak performance rehearsal, now I know that sounds complicated but it is actually a lot easier than it sounds. What we will be doing is using repetition and our personal determination to build a higher level of skill and a higher level of confidence when it comes to talking to people. We will actually learn how to be at our best and then to go beyond our personal best and what you are going to learn today is that personal change is actually very easy as long as you have the right tools. How do we actually use the Hollywood solution?
Well the first step is to develop a ritual or a daily habit where in our minds we rehearse how we want to be during the day. So we actually picture and imagine how we want to be when we are talking to people and how much confidence we want to have during the day and the best way to do that is to have that ritual at the same time each day. Now personally, I believe the best time to do that is when you wake in the morning. Put aside half an hour and for that half an hour every morning, imagine that you are going through your day and that you are talking to everyone you meet with this radiant confidence. You are speaking clearly with enthusiasm and with energy. Feel what that feels like, see people talking to you, and see them attentive to you, happy to speak to you and just feel how much everyone is enjoying the conversation and you want to make this rehearsal as life like as possible. With the pictures, with sounds and with the feelings that you are imagining, now if you worry about visualizing maybe you think “well I find hard to visualize” you do not need to worry about that. If you make it realistic with the sounds and with the feelings in your body, you will get the message through your brain.
What can you do to make this even better? To make it even better, we can imagine the situations from different perspectives, the first perspective is to see what is happening from your point of view, so let us say you walked up to someone. You will imagine the person in front of you and you will hear yourself talking as if you are talking. You will see the other person listening to you, you will get this feeling of the confidence you have, and you will ge
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