Conducting a Jewish Funeral Part 2

This is prepared robotic program on how to do funerals, number two. Let us say you finish the chapel service with the emek refamin and now you are out of the grave site. What do you do? Well, first of all you get pole bearers and that is you do not really worry about that, usually is the family and the funeral director, I never worry about as a pole bearer but if it was not a pole bearer in Jew, none Jew, male, female, usually not just the children and immediate mourners are not pole bearers. Okay, so you take that casket to the grave with the pole bearers. So, somebody may stop seven times, I do not, and you will recite a prayer called Sabbath , after Eliam quietly in Hebrew as you walk in to the grave and if you want to do in English to because it is well in English group, you know you can do that but that is a prayer recite to the grave. When you get to the grave, you place the casket out of the grave, depending on the weather. It depends on whether you lower the casket right away, all the way or you will leave it level and then you have it to level and you do the prayers until you are done and then you lower. But, it is very cold out like the Northern climates in the winter and then you might want to lower right away because you do not want anybody to freeze. While all the casket on the grave you say (Foreign Language) depending if it is male or female whether they come to file resting place in peace. And then you do a prayer called Sedu Kadin and I usually do not do all of it, it is a very long keep of prayer and it really does not mean that much on the modern years. So, much people find it different reading to out their about a remembrance or death or poem or something, usually, not to give another ideology if you have already given one at the chapel. By the way, there is a costume that is growing now but having other people in the family speak, which I find fine. But, I definitely would remind everybody that if they are too many and people should prepare in advance. Of course the goal is to memorialize the decease and to comfort the mourners. Okay, now back to the cemetery, once you done Sedu Kadin very basically you can lower the casket. So, the funeral people will lower the casket. Customary to place earth from the Israelitic casket hopefully, the funeral director have some, it is just me more for a little bit, you can do, you can the Emek Refamin prayer again, that mourner prayer, and then that memorial prayer and you can do that before you lower the casket or while the casket is being lowered, and then, the mourners cashers. Now, there is special burial cash. It is only done at burials that need millions, but I never do it. I mean I have it a couple of times in my whole career, because people do not know it and the people feel comfort and saying the mourner’s kadish. Now, you need ten Jewish adults in the mourner’s kadish. What if you only have four? A lot of rabbi say do not do it. I have always done it, in the grounds that it is comforting for the family and it is totally big horrible thing. But, if you are working with the rabbi of course you feel the lead of the rabbi, what to do in that case. But, I know the rabbi have a hard time, when they refuse to do the mourners kadish at the grave, there is not to mean you to get people sometimes get very upset. Okay, so then, after the mourners kadish, in my ideologies with this statement. So, now so and so as we return all souls to God, we acknowledge that it live with just and our honorable life is now at peace. We are grateful for the years they are blessed. We are blessed by their presence in memorial classic. So, we are saying the words right tradition I do not know what that time, (foreign language), the good Lord gave us his fine soul and now the soul is being returned to a God prayers got us we say, Amen. In the grave, I always answer the mourner’s kadish; I translate the last line and say Shalom, we got and make peace in the heavens and peace to those who mourn. Then I say, and may all the mourner’s of so and so be comfort among those who mourn and we pray that so and so family and friends with no happy occasions that stands near ahead. Now, there are some people that do not want to throw any dirt and some people who express their desire that they have done that dirt thrown in them but that is the minority. The traditional thing that is to have the people participate in placing them in the casket, because we know the machine can come anyway and do what is better we participate in the Mishna of comforting the death and burring the death, it is called casket Shalom the ultimate kind of Mishna. Alright, so the casket is to take a shovel and to turn it upside down at least for the first shovel fall. So, it should not be like a regular digging. And you scoop three times out of the drill and then you place the shovel back in to the pile, and you do not hand it to anybody else. And then let the family do it first and then anybody who wants to. And after that, some people form in rolls called Shalom and he have the motors walk through this two rolls of the people who form their rolls and the people who are their guest at the funeral. They will say then, may God cover your mongrels or more (foreign language) let it be does the Shalom you have to decide if you are comfortable with it. And that concludes the funeral service. Now, if there is a combine chaplet in funeral service and then you can mix together. You do the sound you do the genealogy, you do say after you are on your way to the grave you do hadsa Dukkadam usually, either before, after the (foreign language) depending on what you want to do, followed by rabbi manual on that, to the elmek refamin motor kadish. Basically, you just bridge of the two ceremonies. So, that is the case of the Jewish funeral, of course people wants us to come back to the mourner’s home or a mourner’s home and they have a consolation meal. Let us know if you have any questions or things come up and you are assisting your community in this very holy way. We will send you some material about how some genealogy material that can help you get started. Shalom.