Curious Couple? How to Ease Into Swinging...

[Music Playing] AskDanAndJennifer.com Ask Dan & Jennifer Answering Your Questions On Dating Love and Sex Today’s Question: Ho Do I Start the Swing Swinging? Jennifer: Hi, this question is from Miranda in Alabama. Dear Dan and Jennifer, my fiancé and I are talking about trying to swing life style and we are a little unsure of how to start and move in into a gradually so that everyone is so comfortable. What do you suggest? [Music Playing] All aboard! Dan: I am glad they are looking and trying to ease into it try it slowly, very good thing. The one biggest absolutely talk, talk, talk, and then talk some more. Jennifer: Yes, about everything. Dan: The two of you, really need to get all of your feelings, and doubt, any concerns, any down and deep securities. Well, you know if you look at the girl, some girl that way makes me a secure. That stuff needs to be out it is to be on the table. If this is going to go well, this is what we are actually faltered from our folks you need to be very, very open. So, just talk about what excites, you know, are you looking for what are looking for sex and that is it, or friends with benefits are you looking for threesome or foursome just soft swap, even full swap, just you really care what you are looking for. Jennifer: Yes, and that is going to changes as you go. So, but start out with the basic set ground rules, you know, what is okay, and what is not okay, you know. When you are going to check point, whatever, set some—it does not have to be at list of a hundred things, but you know five or ten firm ground rules. Do not break them, okay! I am big fan of you know, it is easier to ask forgiveness than permission. This is not the time to do that. Okay! That is the quickest way to break up your relationship. Dan: Yes. Jennifer: And just one more quick note. This is kind of lifestyle, is not a fix for an already struggling relationship. Okay, you need to have a very secure relationship or you can be open and honest and talk to each already. This is not going to create that situation these needs to already be there. Dan: Yes, really. So, as far starting just check out some clubs or websites, a club in your area which they are going to be there or just some websites, and then, try it just remember talk before, during, and after. Anytime, some things comfortable, you talk about it. Do not let it fester, whatever you do, talk, talk, talk. Jennifer: Yes, and just kind of one more, little rule. The girls kind of control things, okay? If the girls, say it to go, it is a go. Okay! But guys, this is just going to be to pushy, so everybody needs to be happy too. Nobody need to take one for the team.