Jennifer: You got to here this actually, somebody had told us about this win.
Dan: Oh, Andy.
Jennifer: Yes her brother’s girlfriend told us about this and they are really good. It is so hot; I hope you guys know it is like a hundred and six years today, is not?
Dan: Have you seen where they are from?
Jennifer: Oh Referd go away.
Dan: Do you feel better? Yes, thank you for asking, you know it is kind of a rough week for us last week.
Jennifer: Okay so we can get started. Yes, we are kind of way ALO two days last week. It is good we were back.
Dan: Well, fellows we are sending you martinis yes I was going to remember yes.
Jennifer: Yes AOL, thank you. I do not know if they technically qualify martinis or not but maybe they do.
Dan: These are martinis that I ask of you---
Jennifer: The martini yes, it is vodka, and club soda. You can also use tonic, right? I do not like tonic though I like club soda and raspberries I like. So it is really refreshing for a hot summer day.
Dan: And it looked really cool with the raspberries in there. Who would have done cognac again we will just, we are about to run out of our favorite cognac so can you buy here at the center a cognac care package.
Jennifer: So we will make up forms and we will get started, I think, go, and go.
Dan: Da-dah.
Jennifer: Okay are we good?
Dan: Yes, we re good, I am not saying good, I think, but--
Jennifer: Okay, so we got our Dan Angel from askDanandJennifer.com here every weekday at 11 AM pacific talking about dating, love, and sex. And we kind of bailed out last week before we actually got to talk about sex so we are going to go ahead and kick off the week talking about sex today.
Dan: And yes, we have made and go into fantasies later on the week.
Jennifer: Yes, whatever our favorite folks, I cannot be here on Friday and he was really want it looking for the bondage Friday so we made it bondage Thursday.
Dan: And it this week.
Jennifer: And we do not want to make for that missed out. You have the questions.
Dan: I have the questions that Andy answers and quite is really pretty important for the show today.
Jennifer: If you guys have a question today while we are live, you can send us a private chat or if you want a really well done answers from us and lots of other folk and go to the forums down at the bottom and ask your question there.
Dan: And see if you are watching your quarter version of this on YouTube or other places.
Jennifer: Oh yes, you guys have to help us out because we have some comments on YouTube you know when we start chatting with you guys on the chatroom the folks on YouTube were like “dude what is so funny, we cannot --
Dan: What are you laughing about? Yes. Are we live? We should record that today. [Laughs]
Jennifer: We are much more alive today than we were last week.
Dan: Yes my energy strength is back.
Jennifer: That is where, I only have drink.
Dan: I love when girls start getting tipsy and stuff.
Jennifer: I get the questions or the answers.
Dan: Jennifer and I had pizza together and if she is not doing so good--
Jennifer: So today, we are talking about sex, and it is not like the extreme sex. We would probably do that on Wednesday, but there are sex questions so sex Q&A.
Dan: Sounds like a sex with me either.
Jennifer: That seems to be more my brain is.
Dan: I like that, I like that a lot. I am officially distracted.
Jennifer: First question?
Dan: I have one. [Laughs] a female orgasm mystified after 10 years of marriage--tonight at 10.
Jennifer: No, not on extra. Sorry, could not help it.
Dan: But, you got gadgets, an extra the other--never mind, we are not even going there.
Jennifer: Read that question.
Dan: Okay all right so, my wife and I have known--you are so hot I cannot focus. My wife and I have been married for ten years, when we had sex, wow; we were moving on up for that numbers, you know that. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, when we had sex I can get the muscles in her thighs to shake. I know that this is something she is doing is her body reacting to me. My question is this beginning of an orgasm and what may follow with the orgasm? I think he wants to know how to get that orgasm kind of going boom.
Jennifer: Well and how could he tell.
Dan: Yes and he wants to know--
Jennifer: And those guys have no idea.
Dan: It is so awesome when you bring your girl to orgasm, after orgasm, after orgasm, just to tell this whole uncontrolled thing. You know it is amazing. It is very satisfying.
Jennifer: Is it a sense of accomplishment?
Dan: Oh, hell yes.
Jennifer: Okay look, her leg shaking could be a part of an orgasm, her leg muscles could be tired, she sensing love right?
Dan: Could be a twitch?
Jennifer: Could be twitch, she could be cold.
Dan: Yes, this is a really huge topic for so many guys; there are lots of girls that do not really enjoy sex all that much because the guys are like someone I know is also getting [voice overlap] a lot of the time.
Jennifer: Oh, you can share with them.
Dan: Which part?
Jennifer: We promote a product on our website, called the female orgasm black book and we have been promoting for a while and Dan finally got it around to reading and we actually checked it out [voice overlap]
Dan: Thank you for sharing [voice overlap] [laughs]
Jennifer: Wow that was really cool.
Dan: I have scanned it before and it was good.
Jennifer: The absolute excellence without reading the review and stuff, once he actually read.
Dan: But, this thing rocks, so if you have not seen don’taskDanandJennifer.com copyright resources at female orgasm section. You want to improve your relationship? Make her happy down, right?
Jennifer: So here is the deal okay, orgasms are different for every woman and being able to just tell at guy it is not as easy because it is kind of obvious when that, at least in the guy ejaculates is obvious, right? But, you know for girls, orgasms are different and it can be different every time so I mean the best way if you want to know if your girl has having an orgasm, ask her to communicate it to you okay. To tell you, “Hey, I am having an orgasm” that way you can get an idea on what hers are like, you know. Maybe at muscle contractions, maybe she screams, maybe she holds her breath, maybe she stops moving and get really still. Okay all girls are different, yes?
Dan: Yes, absolutely, now it is just a really good thing, it is something that a lot of guys are really bone up. Guys should really love looking to series like, because some other girls--it is amazing how many women are unsatisfied with their sex lives. And like all this things that; how can tell if she is faking? I have never seen a question to ask from a girl, to say how can I tell if my guy is faking his orgasms?
Jennifer: But it is different, it is obvious.
Dan: It is not so obvious, but you know what a lot of guys see this thing into the “oh, my God, I wonderful was real” I am just saying. I think that is just a societal sign that so many women have a really crappy sex life that is you got to wonder.
Jennifer: Well, and it is a whole different deal with your woman feels that she needs to lie to you about it. It could be her right societally, feeling like she needs to make you happy and that you are doing the good job and everything or maybe you are so hung up on it, but she feels like she needs to lie so---
Dan: And hold each other, girls can go and have another one, and another one, and another one... without special fling outs.
Jennifer: Yes, yes, yes. Scientists say watermelon is better Viagra; I thought I would let you know? What?
Dan: What?
Jennifer: Is that a question or an answer?
Dan: I think there was some guy put out a paper or something that like few weeks ago something about watermelon but [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Watermelon is really awesome; it is good for you at so many different levels. If you guys okay; this is for the guys on YouTube okay. Someone in the chatroom said “did the scientists say-- I think did you here that scientist say watermelon is better than Viagra? I personally would rather try the watermelon and oysters and all kinds other stuffs before I start popping pills.
Dan: You see some kid just get another hesitation. But you know they may wherever will be, I am absolutely certain that there a lot of natural things we put a lot of crap in our body, seriously. I mean, who were decide for the kind of crap that we eat, fabricated food that we eat? Processed foods, and yes I am guilty, I loved that pizza and whatever any all kinds of pop stands whatever.
Jennifer: Vodka bad.
Dan: Vodka, hmm you know---
Jennifer: But if you put condom in it, it is much better. [Laughs]
Dan: My favorite; plus year old cognac, yes.
Jennifer: So to just joining us, we are Dan and Jennifer from AskDanAndJennifer.com, we are here every weekday 11 AM pacific, and today the topic is sex.
Dan: I am so not reading the next one.
Jennifer: It is a guy question.
Dan: I am not reading it.
Jennifer: It is guy question.
Dan: I am not reading it.
Jennifer: Okay you guys are about to see why Dan is insecure.
Dan: No, it is not like that, oh whatever fine, fine, I am reading it.
Jennifer: So that is going to cause more day questions.
Dan: [laughs] can a guy not just be metro? You know that we are doing the eyebrow waxing video so we were doing it [voice overlap] okay. You can see at MetroSafetyEye.com--- [voice overlap]
Jennifer: I do not have ass problems.
Dan: And I do not play on masturbation. Okay I really like to put a finger into the guys question by the way, okay?
Jennifer: What? What? What? I cannot, what do you look and talking about?
Dan: Never mind, I got all the cheese.
Jennifer: Is he distracting your life? [Voice overlap] Okay. Sort of. Okay, I really like to put a finger at my ass when I masturbate, so my question is; is it safe? Can I get injured or anything by doing that? And also if there is some vibrator or from man or something it is like “oh god, I sound gay” it does not make you gay if you like kind of like butt played with okay and how much is the cost? So by the way--- [voice overlap]
Dan: Is this question is from the guy by the way? Do you have the butt played with or by the tool?
Jennifer: What?
Dan: How much it will cost?
Jennifer: Toy, and by the way if there is a way to make a better orgasm besides playing with the petal, Okay? Thanks for the help. Okay first of all, now it does not make you gay.
Dan: Oh, come on, if you do it more than twice a day [voice overlap]
Jennifer: When you are having sex, if you who you are fantasizing your guy and you are fantasizing about men and you are sexually attracted to men and you want to have relationships with men, then you are gay.
Dan: Where at least very bi.
Jennifer: Or very bi?
Dan: Yes, because this whole thing unlike completely, and 100% gay, that is going to be sniffed by somebody but I need [voice overlap] only a 100% over, I am not gay. The best thing that we could possibly find from all over the place nobody can really agree on what makes one person completely gay and or completely non gay. There are just sort of this large gray area between but I think that the thing that matters the most---
Jennifer: Can we just say we are all sexual?
Dan: Well yes exactly, to would not worry what you fantasize about and where your brain is.
Jennifer: Yes, yes, so here is the deal. Okay, one, that will make you gay because you like to play with your butt and two you cannot get AIDS from it, okay. Unless, I am just kidding, I am thinking of a way about putting your own finger in your [voice overlap] I cannot figure that out.
Dan: Did this just back the question of sex education, how sex education could get the grades sucks and where parents at schools got the ball completely and utterly. Our world, as far as our sex is --look, we get this question so often about this masturbation, can I get STDs, can I get aids from masturbation? Kids want to know these things, they ask because you know they felt them and you know, unless there is an incredible off shoot situation. You know where you have been, you are not with somebody else and they have this disease either hereditary or sexually transmitted or sexually transmitted and hereditarily given.
Jennifer: Can we answer the next question?
Dan: So no, you cannot get the things like that. Make sure you wash your hands in order to loose bacteria in your private areas in your body. Just like if you have in mouth, if you put in something bad first, you may get something.
Jennifer: Okay, so back to “it is okay for him to like anus meaning playing with his butt” yes. Okay, here is the deal, the prostate gland is kind of right after it is kind of between your penis and your groin and your anus. So it is like on the girls, it kind of but I think this is for a guy but pressure on that gland is very arousing for men, okay so it is perfectly normal, it is kind of like a G-spot for women. I would take Dan to know, and show him where it is.
Dan: Come on, Jennifer, will this section ever stop?
Jennifer: What happened to do with being gay?
Dan: No but [voice overlap]
Jennifer: ---about his butt, he is like I am not gay but get away from my butt.
Dan: Not your [laughs] ---we are really doing great, thanks for asking.
Jennifer: Okay, so here is the deal. Toys are fine, experiment and find kind of work you like, okay and there is toys made specific for that reason okay. Our favorite website, if you go to resources and scroll all the way down to the bottom, there is a link there but it is extremely--com they have everything, I have never seen a site that has such a broad array of everything. So like Dan said, fingers, toys whatever makes sure that it is clean.
Dan: Yes, if you put it in you make sure that it is clean, thank you. Make sure that it is clean and you will be safe, good hygiene and we got to say this, anytime time that there is anal play involve, mother nature did not intend that to go up there, okay. [Voice overlap] I am not saying you should not do it, another and any goes start down like “God I am not saying any but any limits” I am just saying that the body was not created to make it easy for you to do that. So it does not self lubricate unlike the other side; like the vagina does. It simply does not self lubricate, so make sure your very gentle in that area because you cannot cause tearing---
Jennifer: And most people do not realize that membrane is very thin and then it is going totally gross Dan out and maybe some of you but think about sausages, right?
Dan: I am [voice overlap] [laughs]
Jennifer: --and think about how thin the skin around the sausage, now those are animal intestines but you get the point it is very [voice overlap] membrane, and if you tear that all the way through, it is a serious trouble because all that bacteria into your body, okay---
Dan: There is something else here with this guy, I know this is such a ha-ha topic for so many people because nobody talks about it, but look, people injured themselves in each other with anal sex at different time everyday. I mean, have you heard these stories from emergency rooms that people stick out [voice overlap] and terrible things were up there and it was like even animals, you see working animals, same just have a firm box on that but lubricate well and be gentle with that area okay. Not in not to do but just be gentle and be safe.
Jennifer: As for having a better orgasm look, whatever you are enjoying right then and that moment is going to give you the best orgasm okay, if you say “if I touch here, every time, it is going to feel better than if I touch here” but that is not true---
Dan: The orgasm button.
Jennifer: Yes, there is a magic button; no it is going to be different especially for girls. Oh my gosh, for girls it is different everyday, I feel sorry for guys---
Dan: There are some weird guys; you know it is largely mental; these things are enlarge part mental from like [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Okay, where are we? One-twelve---Scratch my back, [laughs] that was cute---
Dan: So, if you are just joining us we are--tell them who we are--
Jennifer: Who are we? We are Dan and Jennifer for AskDanAndJennifer.com; right got a question when we are offline, go down to the forums. And just so you know, there has been a lot of confusion going around lately about when people come to our show, you will see a “bloop” our videos playing, does not mean we are live and I think that is why we get so many questions, all you guys like live. Okay so we are live every weekdays from 11 to 11:30 pacific that is kind of where we are.
Dan: That had like a reverse idea like one out.
Jennifer: We lost to like, we have a flaky life like you got to hold your--you want the TV, right? This is like standing one leg and hop in circle and maybe it will stay on.
Dan: That is really hot. You wanted to some things about heavy movies studio set in the house. I was having questions and is these lights and all kinds of stuff. At least it does not look like a fire hazard anymore like it did a year ago. Gees phone sex, everybody [voice overlap] not at you but hold on, what if your girlfriend wants to have just phone sex [voice overlap] from a guy he said [phone sex, yes, actual sex no, what will I do? He says hi, I am 21 year old guy and have a 21 year old girlfriend. She is very comfortable with her sexuality, always a good thing. We had phone sex almost daily, at night or I think not together, I am sorry. She really likes to--I am just saying the main reasons why he could be puzzled up. She really likes it when I talk buried to her and she masturbates to it but when we are about to have actual sex she is completely no, no physical sex. But she does not want to stop having phone sex. She is still a virgin and worries that it might get out to her parents and friends.
Jennifer: So it is not that she is hardcore abstinence and it is not that she is really necessarily trying to wait until she gets married. She is just like, she is a little worried because all of her friends, I did not put that in there, but all her friends are still virgins and she is worried about what her parents might think and so there is a lot of social pressure on her, it sounds like.
Dan: So, it is like she--he says “what should I do, I want to take the next step?”
Jennifer: What did he do?
Dan: What does he do?
Jennifer: Look, okay I know that this is going to be hard for all the guys out there, who are in this situation, but look she is just not ready okay, I mean [voice overlap]
Dan: Okay, that is the thing that a guy does not want to hear but it is true.
Jennifer: Short answer; she is not ready. Okay, now she is very comfortable on the phone, you are not fair okay. It is not the real thing so to completely different thing it is almost more of a fantasy that type of situation right? And which will be okay, it is her choice and you need to respect that, because here is the deal, just imagine that you pushed her and you talk her into it and you have sex and god forbids somebody finds out, her parents find out or something like that, she is going to be embarrass, she is going to be upset.
Dan: And she is going to pick it up on you.
Jennifer: Yes, and you are going to be the source of her resentment, so you have been together for a year, did I put that in there? Okay they had been dating for a year, okay.
Dan: We got to attend this before we wrap up with the show; our other objective is that--
Jennifer: So, they have been together for a year so that is a long time but you are still both 21 okay. And it is still, you know, how old or how young you are, when you have sex, it is up to her. She is got to be ready.
Dan: When I was 21, I thought that I was kind of old.
Jennifer: So what can you do, okay? What he can do in this situation is to tell her “you know look, I am really, really ready to take this to the next level and here is why, you know here it why I think it would be a good thing for us and whatever” and you tell her that and you back off, okay, you just back off and give her time to think about it. And oh by the way, when you are all half naked and in all way comes to the front of the phone having phone sex is not to have that conversation, okay. You have that conversation on neutral territory, when you are walking down the street or when you are lunch or something, do not have it in the heat of the moment, because the emotions are high.
Dan: And you are going to get high aloof guys, the moral of the story is you cannot make anyone do something that they do not want to do. Ah no, that was a required. [Voice overlap]
Jennifer: For YouTube, they do not know what we are talking about. Somebody has got banned from the chatroom and I do not know why so I was not watching.
Dan: When our some of moderators ban somebody, it could mean [voice overlap]
Jennifer: That was awesome; we do not want jerks in the room.
Dan: Yes, that is just got to be supportive atmosphere. Just like in the forums, anybody--went ban. Okay guys you cannot make anyone do anything that they do not want to do. I mean otherwise, I make the wham noise again.
Jennifer: Wham!
Dan: Wham. [laughs] seriously, I mean this is one of those things that causes so many problems in relationships because you have this delusion that you can change someone and you keep trying to change me, I will take this guy and you know I love him whatever but I am going to change him.
Jennifer: Well, I love you if you do this for me.
Dan: Yes, people change all the time. And, there are times some people undergo drastic changes instantly. You know major change same, same, and same…major change, same, same… That is not the kind how people work.
Jennifer: And tell me about this girl in the ball. If you think “oh my God, my life has not change. I am the same person I was.” Look back five years and I think you will be surprised.
Dan: Yes, we do not always see the little things but people are the most resist into change, when someone else is trying to change that. It change when they are ready, it is just part of the growing up cycle.
Jennifer: Okay this is a guy question too. If you are just joining as us from Dan and Jennifer from AskDanAndJennifer.com, and if you are live in the chatroom you can send us a private chat message as a question or if you have a question when you are offline which is every all the time except for 11 to 11:30 AM pacific weekdays. [Laughs]
Dan: 11 pacific every weekday, come join us [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Otherwise there is the forums down the bottom and asks us your questions there.
Dan: That gets only to get the quantity, because there is where our print is really, pretty, shiny heart sprouts.
Jennifer: This one is actually a follow up question. A guy had ask us a question before but we did not understand the question quite right, so he is going to be little bit [voice overlap] you see I did not blame the other person [voice overlap]
Dan: I was baited there.
Jennifer: Laugh out loud.
Dan: Hey what happens [voice overlap] if you drag us the top at [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Well it is only coming from the camera right now, when we turn the camera on [voice overlap]
Dan: I want to get two shots; I want to get down on in this one like a playback plan.
Jennifer: Read the question.
Dan: Oh, okay.
Jennifer: Dan is a very tacky guy and he wants to solve all the time [voice overlap]
Dan: ---from two angles and bang not tacky.
Jennifer: In case you have a noxious, I just saw a book it is really cool [voice overlap] so if you are dating someone who thinks that the universe revolves around them and then everybody starts to do things to make their life better---
Dan: Or just to have veridical proof?
Jennifer: It is a pretty good book okay, and just because someone is very narcissistic, does not necessarily makes them a bad person, because there is such a thing as helping narcissism, then they most completely going over the edge. What are you doing? Stop. [Voice overlap] We need some girls up there.
Dan: Yes we need girls up there. Okay, it hurts her when we have sex. Never a good thing because you wanted to enjoy it, you wanted to go on having orgasms after orgasm.
Jennifer: Okay to post on YouTube what we are doing is when you are on live video the actually live on the show you can actually--if someone has a webcam on, you can actually pen them up at the top so you can [voice overlap]
Dan: Do you feel great with this thing---
Jennifer: ---are you talking too?
Dan: Exactly. So we are trying to figure out who can get us from two different angles, it is just kind of cool. You know who can get us from two angles from diction picture that we can do. To use a webcam and a video camera, okay. Here is the follow up the question is it hurts when we have sex, follow up. I initially thought that the issue was girth. [Voice overlap]
Jennifer: He made a comment about have it she completely stretched out so I thought okay well then that would be a girth issue. And for those of you who do not know what is a girth is it is a width around.
Dan: Okay, he said I am to in when we are having sex she complains of pain on her stomach like I am going to deep but she really is turned on and is stretched out and you know we are so-- I hope this makes more sense, and I really hope you can help. It would mean the world to me. We really want to help.
Jennifer: Maybe because you really love the blonde it is up to you so here is really nice. So this is actually easier with this kind of talk.
Dan: You cannot dump by that really.
Jennifer: Yes, you cannot really control that, but how deep you go, it is easy to control, okay this is a great opportunity to try different positions okay. And I had to throw this one here, because I do not know what to do. Most guys they want to throw a girl’s knees up over her shoulder and get in deep as they possibly can okay. [Laughs] you think I am just thinking about him? [Voice overlap] but basically you run into a situation, where she really petite and you are really long.
Dan: Bigger donkey, it may not work.
Jennifer: Yes, it may just not work so the great opportunity to try all bunch of different positions. Okay Google – sex positions or some great websites out there and why do we know this? It is really cool guys so get in ready to write a book. It is so awesome and it is about a hottest place to have sex and positions and stuff like that. It is really awesome. They actually had a real live publisher or what they call [laughs] but anyway do that or go to Amazon, okay there is tons of books out there. Look out the sites stuff okay, there are all kinds of books that have pictures and diagrams of hundreds of positions that you can try.
Dan: And in fact our few orgasm resource that we were so happy about because damned this is just good and we really like it because the guy is a featured author for our site.
Jennifer: [voice overlap]
Dan: Yes, this is awesome and that is in resources on our site, askdanjeniffer. com resource and scripts, scroll down to that female orgasm section, there is stuff should know. And they actually has a sex position thing, it was good. I had tried before, I discovered this weekend, okay, it was good.
Jennifer: You know, you are laughing about everybody.
Dan: I am not laughing at anyone. I am just laughing.
Jennifer: So, this guy from the chatroom likes to do it on the airport, on the airplane in the back and that is such a tight spot. [Voice overlap] but it is a different position and different location, the hottest place to have sex, flying over America. But anyway let me [voice overlap] I have challenge okay, take a weekend and see how many different positions you can try, I am sure you will find 5 or 10 that work. [voice overlap] you will find the sex that you guys like and also, as a guy, I know when you really get excited, it is hard to control, because every sex will just not go in all the way but when you are really excited, that is hard.
Dan: You can be going in with, “you know, I am not going to do it all the way” but in the middle of the action there you like maybe a little bit more. I mean I know, as a guy, having been there, I just going--
Jennifer: [voice overlap] I am not assuming it is a girth issue, but maybe you know just shape and size and some different positions hit different areas and some are some more sensitive lesser than the others, right?
Dan: Yes, this really gets back to, you know the right fit, you know a lot of guys think, “Men, if I only have 4 more inches, every woman in the world would want to be with me” and it is simply not true.
Jennifer: I want to know what kind of a Volkswagen oh sorry somebody says most offers in the back of a Volkswagen, I was like hmm---so, that depends, you know they got that big Volks now and as you read too, so.
Dan: Yes, there is this--pretty cool.
Jennifer: So, a homeboy, okay gets ready to check this out, well it could be the wow that was pretty challenging. One more [voice overlap]
Even how tall you are. Do not do that.
Dan: That? Just that?
Jennifer: Okay, so are we ready?
Dan: Yes, we are ready.
Jennifer: One more question, now we are going to sign off today, unless you guys have any questions.
Dan: Yes the question is very common to us. If you are live in the forum [voice overlap]
Jennifer: [cross talk] Okay, I have to run just a little bit okay. Why is it that people get over to have sex and start having sex and they do not bother to even open up a book, okay I am kind of in a recent-- [Laughs] [voice overlap] but I ready about everything okay and I wanted to know how to do it and the best way to do it and all these guys ever--so many guys just think they suppose to know how to have sex and they suppose to know this stuff without ever cracking and open a book.
Dan: If I may, the first time I was going to do it, for the first time--I am still OCD that you know--the first time that I was start having--the first time that I had sex, I have researched different kinds of condoms, and choose the most effective, what are the pros and cons.
Jennifer: Yes so do you think you have read a book on different positions and where are woman’s G-spot is, and things like that?
Dan: No. That is why I screwed up, up or [voice overlap]
Jennifer: But that was what most men do. Okay, guys look there are so many resources about there today, there is no reason for men to be stupid about sex.
Dan: Well yes, a lot of the time, guys are so--their so, yes ignorant, exactly, but you need the societal thing, it suits you though. I am going to say it is not the issue of most guys, I am going to say that, because this whole macho bull--
Jennifer: Well, I think by the questions we are getting, is not the truth that I get about most guys, because you said he is asking questions.
Dan: Yes, but they going to the forums and they really wanted to know. Do you think that a special sex which is so awesome, which seem to change in our society because it used to be I got it all macho and tough, you know guys do not have to figure out how to please a woman, just no. You know that is stupid, you know that is just---
Jennifer: Yes, stupid.
Dan: That was just dumb. [Voice overlap]
Jennifer: Sorry, we know that you did not typically done negative but that [voice overlap]
Dan: But seriously though, the moment you are thinking no to everything, which is an often very close to that myself. I watch myself, the moment you think you know everything; largely it is because the ego, it needs to feed. You got to feed the ego, I know every guy. It makes you feel good about yourself and it keeps you from learning things [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Maybe your girls are going to do it, come on.
Dan: Yes, there is always--friends are saying years ago, it was this thing. The foremost deadly words just like “I know this already,” because that keeps your brain from learning, always stay open to learn new things. Do not often say “I know that, I know better” but it is just an ego thing, you know that the older I get, the more open I am to learning new thing, because I have realized, I know so much more than I knew two or three years ago. Wow, it means that I was missing something two or three years ago. You know, and as you learn more and more, and little more--
Jennifer: Okay, last question, and this is a problem that I guarantee most guys just wish they had.
Dan: And if you are just joining, who are we to tell them? We do want to hear from you.
Jennifer: Let us do this question, we are almost done.
Dan: We are Dan and Jennifer from AskDanAndJennifer.com; we are here at every weekday at 11, okay. That is mature, okay. My penis is too hard and erect, guys to a few set or second in the forums there with us [voice overlap] I mean in or when you see this commercial, that they erection last more than four hours, you know a lot of guys would be like be “yeah”. Finally has not been like that in years but some people it is that cock. See now, this guy said is when I had sex with my girlfriend my penis stands straight up and it is really, really hard [voice overlap] how can you demonstrate up in there? Just like that, and you know we had to talk about this later. Anyways, I cannot push it down an “oh, wow.” I get mad, because I cannot have sex, now and you know miss some point of you, but we can have sex properly [voice overlap]
Jennifer: We can have--well, I am not sure [Voice Overlapping] like he feels normal people can with lots of different positions [voice overlap]
Dan: So it is funny in any position that we are in you know. We would feel like it is the upper one, right? So, it is straight up and hard, what can I do?
Jennifer: Just look at anything like that; there are a lot of positions, okay, so one of the forums suggested missionary position, right that is the basic one because your bodies are both in the same angle.
Dan: Yes, finally it is a reason why missionary position might work right.
Jennifer: Well, right so I mean you can do that and he was like he came back and he is like “wow, I do not want to be limited to just doing that, right?” So there is lots of positions up and the first thing to come into my mind was while you take this and you turn it up maybe you set straight up a little and you can have each other, right? There are other positions but again we get back into this whole thing, okay, Google search, sex divisions and some demonstrations, there are hundreds maybe thousands, I do not know.
Dan: You know some points from us, put it in the forum.
Jennifer: There are positions that you can try, okay. Do not limit yourself. Go get a book that is--you know, thousands of sex positions, right? And just start trying them and unfortunately you got to work with what you got, okay. But, because in this situation, as you get older, that problem will go away. Because most guys they get softer as you get older, right?
Dan: Yes, no, I am getting older [voice overlap]
Jennifer: Please do not take anything personal, I was not looking at you. Okay, I was not talking about Dan. I am just like in general, as you get older it gets a little softer [cross talk]
Dan: You guys when you do not work out enough, you loose those muscles.
Jennifer: I am just not getting any response to that. Also talk to your doctor okay we are not big fans of popping pills for this fact and the other---
Dan: Does everybody does has a huge, must have been extremely proper [voice overlap]
Jennifer: I was speaking [Voice Overlapping] talk to your doctor okay because he may be able to help you out, there maybe [voice overlap] a pill that can help you out, because I do not like taking medications for no reason. But if there is a really is a serious problem, if it so hard that it would not even bend, maybe that is a problem, I do not know.
Dan: And you get up on meds, that is the blood pressure pills for years and I fondly get off of them. It can be done. Now, okay? So, that was kind of that so we are checking out at the chatroom here, for everybody watching and wondering what we are up to, just enter the chatroom---
Jennifer: Yes, and I am checking people out, just stop.
Dan: And we you know if that were going to work?
Jennifer: No, that was a picture of a wall [cross talk] okay, guys here is the deal that is all we have for today. We will be back here tomorrow and I think I still have more sex questions lined up. [Cross talk] this maybe sex week, because last week was relationship questions what we [voice overlap]
Dan: I thought we are going to bondage but no?
Jennifer: Yes bondage week, yes no bondage week but I think we are going to do bondage a therapy just this Thursday. He really wants to do bondage Friday last week, but we were not here. Well, we were online and so we will may use that Thursday, this week, so if you bondage, fetish, fantasy questions go put them in the forums that way we got a good selection on Thursday.
Dan: Absolutely, [voice overlap] so we just have a wonderful day, we will see you back 11 pacific every weekend.
Jennifer: Tomorrow, talk to you then.
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