Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about letting successful women, and then talking for this with you is they are to be sexy.
When you hear the word sexy, do you have the feeling that it applies to you? To your life, to how you express yourself with men or you do you have feeling that you are not comfortable with this word? (Laughing)
Okay, sexy is probably one of the key qualities guys are attracted too. If you want to play the game with an addicting love, you have to express your sexiness.
Being sexy simply means that you put yourself in the best positive life. It means that you radiate out. It does not mean the sexual aspect of it, eventhough it can be express in that way. But, it is more about your radiance. It is really about having this connection of fun, joy and likeness that you rugged out an express with guys when you are interacting with them.
So, how do you express that?
Well, of course you express it the way you dress. What you are going to be wearing. If you are too conservative withdrawing within a set of clothings which are a bit too comfortable, then that is the message that you are going to send out.
So, they can meet a bit of risk on that level and surely, it could be for more. It is about suggesting, it is not about being vulgar or loud. What you want is to suggest your sexiness and a simple way.
Of course, being sexy or so, it can be expressed in the way you express yourself. It is with flirty attitudes to teasing guys, all that. All these attitudes really are what is going to send this message of sexiness.
And if right now you have the feeling on that level, you do not score very high, take some very little step. Sometimes, it is about wearing something a little bit more colorful or really to be more open in this kind of things.
Once you start taking steps, you will notice that it becomes very natural. You start in body needs naturally and it is all about a matter of daring, a little bit.
It is a little bit of risk of course because, you are afraid of gossips and what people might say about it, but guess what? People do not really care about it. All the people, they might judge you are a less being but, who cares? It is okay. It is part of the nice things that you can express in life. And, it could be a pity to meet some on these gifts.
So, the next question on this topic is “How can you express your sexiness and still appear smart, strong, confident and not use your credibility within the work base?”
Francis, if you are teacher or if you are in the health care, or if you are within the business environment and work within an organization, you get sometimes a feeling that you have to respect the culture of your organization and not really stretch the way you appear or the way you present yourself with this professional context.
And, my advice is very simple; you have to respect that culture of your organization that you are in. But every now and then, very frequently, you can stretch that as well. It means that you can dig the culture that way it is. The style of the office you are working is a little bit more conservative, you can always add a little bit of currier.
You can add some eniments which are going to make you more sexy. You can also play with attitudes. Again, I call that to be flirty attitudes so that it will work very well.
The question that you have to ask yourself is being sexy at that moment, appropriate to know it. It is okay to flirt with before (Laugh) with the clients you are working with? For instance, if you in the marketing field and you have a client coming in, is it okay to be flirting with that person at that moment?
And, sometimes it is! Sometimes, it is just going to lighten out the connection to that with that person and really, added dimension to work that you do really added quality and add so value to interaction with men within the context.
Now, if it is not appropriate, it is okay. You can consider that sometimes work and personal life, fun dating life, really have to be separate, and that is okay.
So, you do express your sexiness and your flirty attitudes within social common days when you go out, party with your friends. So, that is okay.
In some situations, simply being flirty and sexy is not going to be appropriate within the professional context. But, what I observe is that, most of the times, there is room for improvement. There is room for expressing where there you can find more joy and flirty attitudes. So, my advice is really go for it and what you have to express as well.
It is simply the confidence, do no be afraid of people judging or go seating with the bit. Sometimes, they do or sometimes they do not. Even if they do, they will get tired of talking about it and eventually, you can express these qualities in a free way okay?
I hope this makes sense. Remember: they are too mistakes.
Take care, and have a great day. Bye-bye.
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