Dealing with a Gay Child

Kendell: Normally we're talking about pregnancy and being pregnant and getting pregnant and what you think of pregnancy. Today they were going to move a little into the future, you know before I had babies, I thought the baby part would be the hard part and it is physically the little babies are hard part. Nina: Well, you know this Kendell, little kids it is so problems big kids, bigger problems. Kendell: You just have no idea accept that actually we both do have an idea. Nina: Yes. Kendell: I have step side who is nineteen-and-half. Nina: And I have 25, 18, 11, 10, 9, and 7 so I run the game of all the -- together. Kendell: I might say it frankly right now I'm a big fan of seven year old or my gosh, if you believe I'm saying that. Nina: Well, three's olds to four year old, we don't talk about Kendell: I don't have any of those I'm thinking its stealing if you alright so here is with some moms with teens are up against, so Julie wrote and should thinks her son might be gay, she caught her eighteen year old son on a gay porn site Nina: Interesting. Kendell: For about a year and now I seen that's someone has been looking at gay porn and ask my three sons who it was. Nina: Just three sons. Kendell: All set it was them -- well honestly, okay, now I got my eighteen year old son on it. He wouldn't talk to me about it at all and I'm devastated. Nina: Okay. Kendell: I don't know if he is gay and I can't believe even believe he is well okay skip what you can believe mother you don't what to believe. I tried to tell myself he may be confused, but I know he has been visiting these sites for year now. So I'm assuming he is not confused he could sensible, he won't talk to me about it. Well it's not exactly like. Nina: He is not -- Kendell: But it's also, it's not an easy thing I have a discussion with your mother about, okay. Nina If you are eighteen you still confused about your sexuality, it's not black and white. Kendell: Okay. Nina: But between Kendell: So, let's just say he is gay. The porn site honestly I don't want to sounds like overly liberal because I'm not, but well eighteen year old boys were regardless off which way they swing. Nina: To check in everything else. Kendell: I'm a busy I mean have reading -- are so right here, I've been told having ever been eighteen older boy. Nina: -- thinking website. Kendell: So the porn part or the fact that he is interested in make it people doing the nasty things that doesn't surprise me I'm be I'm not thrilled, but you know but to support what it he is gay that is he is gay it still you're sounds that's how he came weird. Nina: I just think he is trying to figured of himself. He is looking at the porn sites to see that if that who he really is. If he has been looking out of a year, he is still not a 100% sure. If he is gay then nothing you can do about, you got love him for who he is. He is your son we don't know look born with it or it is part of chromosomes. I believe he born this way. Kendell: I believe your wire that way, but if he is still your son you have to acknowledge him Nina: Don't think that is your approach him, as you should talk to him, -- a little one, she is just bring it up may be drop of kind of hand or something like that you know Kendell: she has to let them know, its okay and you just still love him. Nina: There is a lot of gay people on Tv and in the news that are headliners are making incredible careers out of it and it's not like sensor Kendell: It's a sexual preference just it is Nina: We got Rosy, who is openly gay and alone to generous and they celebrated and they come out with it and people love him that who are there and doesn't affect the career, initially may be there is a little blip. Nina: He might get noticed on son and lot of the deal, you know what's coming forward? Nina: Nobody is shocking. Kendell: I'm really shocking. Nina: it's shocking -- Kendell: What you do to close the door. Nina: You are playing yourself what that I do that I do something to promote this, but in the long one I think it's a genetic thing, they born with the does who they are, and god's keeping with you to all and I hope everything by went out. Bye. Kendell: Bye we'll see you back.