Domestic Partnership
Hi, this is Dr. Philip Vagras from—I have a question from a very frustrated wife. My husband lost his job six months ago and I am now working. He is not doing anything around the house. I cannot continue doing everything I used to do plus work. Help! Well, it sounds like that your old contract between your husband and you was that he was going out getting a job and providing for you and him in order for him to bring you the money and you are going to stay home and take care of the house, cook, clean and everything else. Now, that contract is null and void! It is gone! Sitting down and renegotiating a contract by saying “Okay, this is how it is for now.” So, by sitting down and making him understand that you need help and by doing so, he needs now to do what you used to do. He may feel uncomfortable doing it, maybe he does not really know how, maybe feels inadequate about that, so by figuring out what he needs that maybe he needs some on the job training, also he is most likely I am a man and I do not want to do this work and this is whatever the case maybe, this is why this is up—but, by sitting down and renegotiating the contract between you two will help you to come together as a couple in this adversity, this tough time can break you or it can unite you and strengthen you and it will really test how much each one of you love each other and how much each one of you is patient with each other and so sit down, renegotiate the contract, help him out as he feels inadequate and once he gets back in his job, you may say, hey, you know what? I like working now! So, now, another contract would have to be drafted. I hope that was help. Have a great one!