Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com, we are talking about waking up your power and the topic for this video is focus on win, win. You heard the term synergy before right. Synergy means that when two people, two persons join forces the amount of energy have to create is bigger than simply the sum of those two people, okay. There is when two-person come together there is something magical happening it is the third entity the spirit of what you create together and because you connect with that spirit, something magical can happen. This something magical it is there is a third force or the third power that is get engage to project or direction or what are you trying to do to get it, okay. So they key word or the key idea to create synergy with somebody or to create synergy with the team is to focus on win, win. Win-win rather than win-lose. When we focus on win-win it, means that everybody benefits when start taking action, everybody okay.
It not just one person, it just not you know the benefit of one individual it is the whole team or the whole you know the whole system which engage into this battle or direction or whatever purpose or goal that you are engaging into. So if I just want you to function as a couple you know imagine that you are in the relationship. You have to focus on win-win when you want really to make the best out of the project or discussion that you are heading you need to look at, imagine that you are in the other shoes and imagine what the other person perceive of how they heal what you are saying. Are your targets, are your goals going to create a win-win in that specific situation. In what you are discussing, okay. And this is the one very simple strategy to keep up line at all times. Focus on win-win. If you start doing, that, much more you will see that n your life. That is flowing through you, in you the project at focus on much more exciting, everything becomes much more thrilling because you focus on win-win.
Now how does it work exactly, precisely because you have this third entity or the third energy that gets engage and this creates magic really? It creates much more results, much faster. And when you focus on win-win something else happens, it is that you shift from the competitive attitude to a collaborative attitude, right? You become collaborative with the other person it means that you join forces. When you are competing what is happening? Imagine that you are trying to get somewhere or do something you know imagine that you are driving this car to go to the movies maybe one evening with your partner your boyfriend, your girlfriend, or your wife or a husband. You are driving and you see the other person resisting it you know they do not really want to be there. They would like to be somewhere else goes to café with some friends, or they want to go somewhere else. What do you feel? You feel his ongoing resistance, right. And this resistance in itself requires you to put extra energy into that but you know the evening you might feel drained the entire it might be exhausted precisely because of the resistance of the other person.
So what happen there and what can you do differently. Well, first you have to check with the person before you even engage to the project if this is what they want to do. If t is not what they want to do going to the movie that is the specific evening it is not going to be a win-win, right? So what you want to do it first find out if this is a project if you both want to engage into and realize that yes, there is a way of focusing on things that are going to be win-win. If you take, for instance you know a team at work. Imagine that you are manager of in a company and then you have a team you work with. If you focus on your own interest only rather than giving creative space for this team to work in for instance then you are eventually going to create a lot of resistance you are going to create resemblance in the team and before it is going to be easy for you to work on that project. So the key idea is very simple.
You can start applying in so many different situations and it is a too short to cover all examples but keep this in mind focus on win-win this is going to create synergy and synergy the key you know the key concept or the key thing that you want manifest when you want to work together, okay. Hope this make sense. Take care and have a good day. Bye, bye.
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