Gender Differences in the Hook Up Culture

Hooking up is everywhere. Movies, magazines, the internet. Even though it is seen as common and maybe even encourage, there's a double standard around hooking up. We give men a lot more leeway in these encounters than we do women. Men are congratulated for conquest, while women are labeled. However, this new age of girl power, many women relished their own social conquest. Now an interesting facet of the hook up culture is how differently the genders view it. Men and women look at hooking up from totally different points of view. Men enjoy the status quo of hooking up, and if a relationship develops as a result of an encounter, that’s just fine. They have the power to control the intensity of the relationship. On the other hand, the female view point falls along two distinct lines. Some girls hope that the encounter will evolve into a relationship, so hooking up is the first natural step in a potential relationship. The second group is fiercely committed to sexual freedom and power. They're disillusioned by love and avoid commitment. Their only interest is be admired and pursued. The guy becomes a means to an end. Hooking up is regarded as a hobby, like backgammon. So here's some suggestions, if you were involved in a hook up culture of if you are worried about someone who is, beware of these dangers. Hooking up is very dangerous. Don’t have sex with someone you don’t know very well. There could be diseases, legal issues, and psychological problems that can harm you for a few weeks or for the rest of your life. Cart before the horse. Don’t began this habit of substituting physicality for emotional connection. It is much more difficult to focus on building a lasting relationship once you have introduced sex. 20 and 30 something couples now have the least amount of sex in part because of the hook up culture. They have no idea how to integrate sex into a committed intimate relationship. In their minds, sex is for being single not for marriage. So please, to avoid thousands of dollars in therapy bills, try going on a date before you go to the bedroom For more information and tips, please visit my website at gearingup.com. I'm Dr. Sylvia Gearing.