Give her space! - Don’t be needy! - FOR MEN
Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from Vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about relationships and the topic for this video is Give her space do not be needy.
This is a question that was posted on my channel from a woman who asked for help so that her husband becomes a bit less clingy, less than naggy and gives her space. So it is a very important topic for relationships because very frequently, guys and also women will sometimes tend to become too clingy, too attached or too demanding within the relationship. And this creates some form of asphyxiation of the energy.
Your partner might feel really totally blocked or limited within relationship. And once sometimes to simply spend time outside of relationship, so those dynamics can create lot of trouble, lots of tension in the relationship. So the key to understand is that neediness is really a dead end, emotional dead end. You get start within that position because you have very little activities or resources outside of the relationship or the couple.
So, the key here is to start developing your behaviors and start connecting with activities, connecting with social life outside of the couple, outside of the relationship. When you are clingy or needy, this can be expressed in a soft way of reacting in soft way. It can be simply wanting to be around your girlfriend or wife more frequently that is all. But sometimes if it becomes a bit more stronger, it can become jealousy, demanding, possessive, controlling attitudes and all that becomes more heavy.
These can really be a deep breaker if it becomes too much in a relationship. Sometimes parties are going to break up over an issue like this one. So it is important to do something about it before it is too late. Now if you are a guy who is trapped in that kind of situation and your wife or girlfriend is asking for you to change that behavior, it is important to do something about it.
If you are to the extreme of being extremely jealous or being very demanding and controlling then go back to my site and check the program for guys which is called Jealousy how to deal with it for man. It is posted at vitalcoaching.com/jealousyforman.htm. I repeat vitalcoaching.com/jealousyforman.htm, this is the best program, it is MP3 audios, I post it most set of videos, there is a new book etc.
So go to that place and get it if you feel like you are trapped in this kind of behaviors or attitudes. Now, what is going on during when you are within this needy, demanding or clingy attitude, what is really going on? What is going on? It is simply that you become dependent, emotionally dependent on the relationship and on the couple. So you want to be around, your girlfriend or wife all the time. And the idea of sticking away from her and simply giving her space is actually a chance because you feel it with lust.
So you have to recover your power, you have to start looking at life a little bit more from your own power of perspective, power based and start depending a bit lesser on your girlfriend. I mean when you are trapped in things, clinginess or neediness, you are really within this kind of emotionally dependent state and that is not a very empowering or nice place to be in. So take a step back really and start dropping again with your new social connections and reconnecting with your sense of personal power, which does not depend on your girlfriend or wife, okay?
When you are in a relationship or when you are in a couple, you basically base your emotional foundation or your power base on two pillars. Right, that is you and this one is your girlfriend or wife. So that creates an exchange of energy that goes on over time between you and her and this becomes your base, your emotional base in life.
So if you want to reclaim a little bit of the power, start functioning a bit more as an individual. What would you do if she was not around? What would you do if she was gone and if she was single again? Start behaving a bit more like that and you well see that this will allow you to recover your power quite fast.
So there is more to see on this topic of course but I will stop here for now. Take care and have a great day. Bye-bye.
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