Giving A Gift To Someone You Haven't Dated Long

If I have dated someone for a short time, when should I give a gift?

Nancy R. Mitchell: I always like to recommend that people don’t rush in to gift giving when they are starting to date someone. The early stages of dating are getting to know someone and spending time together and finding out if you do want to spend more time together. Gifts can sometimes get in the way so put it off as long as you can possibly can.

In the first weeks or months of getting to know somebody, start taking middle notes. What do they like? Do they like music? Do they like sports? Do they travel? Do they cook? Do they love anything that‘s related to their job? Do they have pets? Do they have children? Whatever. Think about collecting this information so that when an opportunity arises where a gift is appropriate, you will be able to personalize that gift because of the information you’ve collected about that person.

Let’s say though, that you have just started to date someone and an important holiday comes up or a birthday comes up; don’t over do it. You can not buy someone’s affection or their love or even their respect by giving a gift. So choose very, very cautiously and don’t over do it.


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