Gun Shy Guy or Just Leading You On?

[Music Playing] Jennifer: H! This question is from D in the United Kingdom and it is just the letter D. So, without a real name but that is okay. Dear Dan and Jennifer: I met a guy through work. I have been out with him several times and have a good time. I like him a lot and I think he likes me too. He does not want a relationship or commitment because an ex girlfriend whom he was planning to marry dump him for another man nearly two years ago. He says he still wants to meet up now and again and I am wondering what is the point in meeting anymore. But on the other hand, I am also thinking maybe I should continue seeing him and give him some space and do not hustle him and then see if over time something developed. What do you think? [Music Playing] Jennifer: Well, it could go either way, I mean one, maybe he really does needs space and he is not ready for a relationship or two, he is not just that in to you. I mean most guys, I hate to say it but they just do not have the courage to say, you know, I am not really interested and I do not want to see you anymore. So, it could be either one of them. I am just telling you, those were the two options but I do think if you are going to keep seeing him, you have got to give him space, there is no other choice. No one responsible to being pushed and give an ultimatum etcetera, etcetera, okay? So I would to say give him the space and see where it develops. Dan: Yes and he may – he may okay, may never want to see his relationship with you. It is entirely possible. So you have to ask yourself are you okay with the casual relationship? I mean, do you have fun when you are together? Is it that bad? You know, do you really need that written form commitment to point? 2.9 months from now, we are going to be at this phase of the relationship. Is that so important to you? If it is, and that is cool, but this may not be your guy and then maybe time to move on. Jennifer: Yes, I mean like he said, if you are going to stick around, you need to ask yourself what kind of relationship you are looking for. If you are looking for more serious relationship and you are hanging on and hoping this one will develop into it, that is just a bad idea. Either you guys are on the right path at the same time or you are not. So if you are ready for casual, stay but otherwise move on. [Music Playing]