Hi, this is Dr. Diana Kirschner with Ask Your Tango, answering your dating and relationship questions.
Today’s question is from Cupcake. He broke my heart, why is he contacting me? I'm confused. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He said he was lost and didn’t know what he wanted. Just as I'm trying to move on, he sends me an email saying that he’s been thinking about me.
One, this could be the type of guy who wants what he can’t have. So as soon as he loses you, he wants you back. But then as soon as he has you, he’s not interested. So that’s one possibility.
Now, the other possibility is much more promising. The other possibility is that he got his act together, he realized through losing you that he really, really appreciates you and that he really, really wants you in his life and he’s ready to man up and he’s ready to create a relationship with you. And this can work out fantastically.
So what you need to do is see him and really interview him and see if he’s talking a little bit differently than he used to talk, commitment-type things or he’s using the L word, he’s saying he loves you or that he wants to marry you or he wants to move in with you. And you will assess that—you know, what is really going on with this guy.
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