Jennifer: Okay, this is from a girl who moved in too soon.
Dan: Yeah, it happens.
Jennifer: It says hi Dan and Jennifer, I haven't been with my boyfriend for very long less than a year and I moved in with him at the beginning of this year. I feel I moved in way too soon. I think it's just not right for me and I would like to break up with him. It's harder to do though because I live in his house.
Dan: Yup, breaking up with the landlord.
Jennifer: Any ideas on how to break up with him and how I should do it and what to do about my living situation?
Dan: That is a compound question.
Jennifer: It is a multiple compound question. The first question I have that I didn't actually think about when I first read this question was, do you want to break up or do you just need to move out and get some space, because it could be one or the other. But assuming you want to move out, we will focus on something else.
Dan: But it's a real cluster situation and I can understand why she feels this, that pressure.
Jennifer: Yeah, yeah. Okay, Tusan tell him exactly what you told us okay, look, you know I like you, it's not your fault, I just feel like I did this way too soon and I am not ready for it.
Dan: Would you bring this to question number 2. Where can this girl live? Who can, she doesn't have a place of her own. Look surely there is somebody that you can stay with and if not, what were you doing before him? You were living somewhere before him, do it again. Were you staying with mom or you are staying with your dad or you are staying with friends and family and whatever. You shouldn't be dependent on this one other person because that really jeopardizes and complicates the relationship.
Jennifer: Yes, are you just living there? Or are you dependent on him for your financial being?
Dan: Yeah, in which case there is a big ratio, you mean if I don't possibly, you should be standing on your own two feet and then you can have a healthy relationship with another person, with a guy, girl or whatever.
Jennifer: Yeah, the thing from the 1950s or whatever when the women were supposed to be dependent on the men and she would stay home and cook and raise the family and he would bring home money and paid and all that kind of stuff that was in 1950s okay, this is a different millennium.
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