Jennifer Dear Dan and Jennifer
There is a girl that I love but I am shy to ever talk to her and I want to ask her out but I really do not know how.
So, boy we get this question a lot. The only reason anyone in the world the shy is fear of rejection, okay. We are afraid that the other person is going to disapprove of us and say no. the one thing you have to realize before you can ever think about over coming shyness is that you are okay just the way you are, okay.
What anyone else says or does, cannot make that decision about you being okay. You have to know in the inside that you are okay how you are.
Dan and the moment that you embrace that, you are not going to be shy or afraid to be prose people anymore and that is such a huge point.
Jennifer Yes! So basically just talk to her. She would not bite.
Dan Unless you really, really like it!
Jennifer Yes, yes
Dan Okay. Whatever you do, do not go up to her. So many people say, “Oh, let her know how you feel.” It is a source of one of these stupid strategies ever.
Whatever you do, do not go up to this girl and say, “Gee hi, I am Joe and I really, really like you.” You know, at the back of her mind, she is going to be seeing this big light flash, “oh, red alert! Red alert, run!”
You know, this is not a good approach strategy. Because you are making her choose on the spot how she is going to respond to you. She has this side without knowing a damn thing about you. She has to give you an answer whether or not; she wants to go out with you.
Jennifer It is the fastest way to get to know.
Dan Fastest and almost guaranteed, you know like playing the lottery type numbers. Really, really bad strategy!
You know, give her a chance to get to know you.
Jennifer Yes.
Dan you know, normal approach, just pretentious, a real person actually she is. And get to know her, say “hi”, you know, it is going to help you with something.
Jennifer He is famous for that, “can you help me with this?” It works every time, okay. The girls fall all over a poor helpless boy in need of assistants
Dan A help of thing you need a lot
Jennifer but basically, okay, our two sense, it is okay if she says “no”, okay. You can ever try doing things to practice getting knows, okay. Ask people stupid questions that you know they are going to say “no” too. And just get used to it. It is okay. If she says “no”, you are not going to dissolve into infinity okay. You are still going to be there. You are still going to be the same, wonderful person that you are.
Dan At any given time, a girl that is standing even in a club, in a bar, whatever, a girl that is sitting on that chair, having a drink, could at least have the time, she will not be interested having a guy walk up door.
Jennifer Any guy, not just you, any guy.
Dan She may like girls, really. She maybe taken with a guy she actually likes. She may have just broken up
Jennifer Maybe, she lost her job. Just broken up, there are a million reasons why she wants nothing to do with you or anybody else.
Dan So just accept it, it is okay. She may say, “No”, or she may not be interested and may not be that you are a bad guy.
Jennifer Yes and may have absolutely nothing to do with you so, like my grandma always said, “There are a lots of fish in the sea.” So just keep fishing and the right one will stay on the hook.
Dan Absolutely!
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