Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about getting successful women and the topic for this video is, How often should I ask him out?
I am answering a question right now, that was posted to my forum, and the question was: I am going out with this guy already and we went to a couple of dates. I invited him for dinner, we went to the movies.
But the problem that I have now is that, I am initiating contact all the time. It is me who is initiating contact. It is me who is asking him out and what I wonder is how often, it is okay for me to ask him out or should I wait for him to, you know, to initiate contact now?
So, my answer is very simple. If you are already initiated contact and you feel that you are interest much more into this than he does. Then, eventually will get tired of asking him out.
So, my advice is very simple, if he already get use with you asking him out, what is best is stop contacting him maybe for a couple weeks, okay.
You do not ask him out. You do not initiate contact. You simple wait and if you meet him by chance, you know for instance if you work with him, you can, you know, have a light conversation respectful, kind of teasing, flirt but do not initiate contact.
Do not ask him out and you will see that eventually, if he is really interested. If he likes being with you, he would take a step and eventually ask you or invite you for something.
Now, a lot of guys simple relax into position of simple letting you take the actions simple because it is comfortable you know, to let somebody take the initiative. He does not make you think any risk.
So, the best is simply to wait, you know. Wait for a couple of weeks, if you, you know be patient and let him take the initiative and see what happens, and if in a couple of weeks he does not initiate.
Then, you can always come back with new invitation or new idea to ask him, you know, to ask him out. But that is about, you know, I think the best strategy to follow this situation. Take care and have a good day. Bye, bye.
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