Valerie Gibson: Hi everyone! This is Grunt.
Grunt: Hi!
Valerie Gibson: Grunt, this is the panel that’s going to help you out.
Grunt: Alright.
Kateryna Spiwak: Hi Grunt!
Grunt: Looking great!
Kateryna Spiwak: Great! Can you tell me how your dating experiences have been like since high school? Have you asked other women? How was that going—experiences you’ve had?
Grunt: I always you know if I go out I always try to talk to women but it was seems like there’s a barrier and I just can’t get over that barrier.
Valerie Gibson: So everyone. What made you think of Grunt’s problem?
Kateryna Spiwak: Help him a little bit in terms of what to say and the approach to take. Give him some skills to help him in that situation to actually get his message across in a confident way.
So Grunt what we’re probably going to do is to show you a couple of different approach scenarios, one that works really, really well and one that didn’t work as well.
Sbash: Can I sit down.
Sheryl: No, sorry I’m meeting somebody here.
Kateryna Spiwak: With the way he approach her, he look very shy. He looks like he was lacking confidence, lacking self assurance. He was closing in on himself—closing in. He was like looking bashful and he’s looking down. It was difficult for him to maintain the eye contact but when he approached her indicated that he expected to be rejected which turned her off right away within the first 10-second—you know I don’t want to talk to you—
Sbash: Hi!
Sheryl: Hi!
Sbash: Can I sit down?
Sheryl: Sure!
Sbash: I’m Sbash!
Sheryl: Sheryl.
Kateryna Spiwak: You continually build rapport and you could do that with—Bio language so if she moves towards you, you want to move towards her. If she picks up a glass and she’s sipping, pick up your glass and sip.
Valerie Gibson: Because I’m interested in you, you’re important.
Grunt: Okay.
Kateryna Spiwak: That’s right.
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