Female: We are born from the essence of peer joys.
Male: It is our nature to be happy.
Female: Throughout our lives we look the ways to be happy.
Male: We continue looking for ways to be happy as we grow up and as we get older.
Female: But as children will begin to develop the pattern of misinterpreting events in our lives. This traumatically limits our ability to be happy.
Male: The pattern begins when something happens that stimulates strong feelings of fear, confusion or sadness in us. Such as inviting friends to a party and no one showing up, or asking help and hearing don't bother me, I am busy.
As a example:
Female: One day while you are playing in your room, you are interrupted by the sound of your parents arguing. You hear your mother scream, 'I just cannot take it anymore' and then, a little a while later the door slams. You feel scared, you rush to the window only to see your mother getting in the car with the suitcase and drive away.
Male: In your fear and confusion, you misinterpret your mother leaving and decide that it did not means people only care about themselves and you must be unlovable.
Female: This makes it hard for you to see the good things in your life because you are so busy protecting yourself from feeling this pain ever again. You end up focusing on whether people are being selfish. You avoid situations where you need to depend on others and you are worried about getting too close to anyone.
Male: This habit of guarding against selfish people and feeling unlovable becomes your limiting focus. Every time you focus your attention on whether people are being selfish or looking for evidence that you are unlovable, it limits your ability to be happy.
Female: Of course, sooner or later you find someone you care about deeply and start a relationship.
Male: However, as in most relationships, sometimes the other person is late, sometimes they do not call when they say they will, or they forget to do what you have ask them to.
Female: But with your limiting focus that people are selfish and you are unlovable, you misinterpret what happens and tell yourself that your partner is rude and inconsiderate, and the relationship is destined to fail anyway because everyone needs it sooner or later.
Male: You start feeling scared and confused, and to protect yourselves, you become close and distant. You begin criticizing the other person and blaming them for the problems in the relationship.
Female: And the relationship ends painfully.
Male: The painful ending of your relationship reinforces your original decision that people only care about themselves and you must be unlovable.
Female: As you grow up, this pattern of misinterpreting what happens repeats itself over and over again. You make decision after decision that further limits your ability to be happy.
Male: What you focus your attention on grows.
Female: From a very young age, we have been trained to turn our attention away from our natural ability to be happy. We have been thought to take care of ourselves by focusing on who is to blame and deciding who is right and who is wrong.
Male: What would be possible for you if you are able to reconnect with your natural ability to be happy?
Female: Would you focus on having better relationships?
Male: Could your relationship be more honest and intimate?
Female: Would you feel more alive?
Male: Could you rely on people more often?
Female: Would you feel more comfortable asking for help?
Male: What would make you happier?
Female: What you focus your attention on grows.
Male: Focus your attention on what's most important to you.
Female: Focus on what you want.
Male: Focus on what you love.
Female: Start reclaiming your natural ability to be happy today.
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