Female: York Vatican University with Professor Basti and were going to talk about love and your philosophical thoughts on it. you know I talk a lot in my writing and about romantic love and it the thing that people are very you know interested in and like to talk about and like to write poems about and sing song about. How important at the end of the day is romantic love for a long lasting marriage and for the continuing for the keeping of a family.
Male: Romantic love in the family or in the marriage is like the power engine in the car. That is without power engine you have no car. The car cannot move but in the same time the power engine without a fuel or without gasoline it cannot work. So the problem generally in the life of the people and the life of family is our to make this power engine always working. And so I think of that that the forgiveness is the most important.
Female: To sort of keep romantic love alive you have to be very good at forgiveness which is very Christian quality.
Male: Very Christian quality everybody can make mistakes. And if that is not forgiveness for the mistake and its impossible to reconstruct the relationship after a mistake. Give the need is done, done, pardon is a sort of Eber Dono that is in “I forgive”.
Female: When forgive somebody you're giving them the ultimate gift.
Male: Yes, yes it’s a gift that is the most important gift. The higher gift, the highest gift you can give to a person, people generally are constrained to get married in an old aged at this.
Female: People are getting married later and later now.
Male: Later and later now.
Female: And you're concerned by this.
Male: Yes, it’s very difficult at a given period of life to change the way of life or living.
Female: Yeah, if young people are waiting for the perfect love of their life, their soul mate their waiting for that person so it’s taking them longer because they have more options, do you think that there is a way to be more open to falling in love sooner?
Male: Now I'm seeing is that sort of a loss of science. And because in science it is statistics and of course we are six billion people and now in the earth who will be in the short time. If you imagine that you have only one person that we made—okay and met between three billion people because I'll fight for it. You're probably one over three billionths and the mathematics is zero.
Female: Yeah, it’s not good.
Male: Zero.
Female: It’s not good, yeah.
Male: Its not, its nothing from this initial attraction okay that is romantic love. The problem is to construct the other person for being my right counter part, the bitter before marriage must be used by the two people for constructing each other.
Female: What do you mean constructing?
Male: That is I have to change you so that you are integrated with me and you will have to construct me because I can interact with you in the right way.
Female: So its not about changing each other as much as you're saying integrating each other by changing their lives.
Male: Changing, changing.
Female: And changing.
Male: Because of course if I have to go this with this.
Female: And you have to change.
Male: Okay, I have to change it because of course you are different.
Female: I'm taught to believe that you shouldn’t loose yourself in a relationship, you shouldn’t loose yourself at love, you have to stay who you are.
Male: In the gospel when Jesus said that “Only the person who looses light will find it”.
Female: You know I ask people on the street yesterday what they felt—what is the most important thing you had to have to fall in love and they said, they all said “You have to be willing to loose yourself”.
Male: Yes, yes.
Female: So people on the street drinking and you, you agree in difference ways but you agree.
Male: Yes, yes of course the people are sure doing this and this.
Female: I have a hard time falling in love and that’s why I'm single. Is there a way for me to be more—is there something you know is there a way for me to fall in love more easily.
Male: If I am honest I have to say, please if you want to be happy in your life loose yourself for love.
Female: Well I don’t think were going to get anything better than that, thank you so much that was beautiful.
Male: Okay, thank you.
Female: That was really beautiful.
Male: Thank you.
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