Hi, I am Jen, and I am here to today to talk to you a little bit about breaking up. Breaking up is hard to do, so here are some tips on the best ways to handle it. Now as far as the actual break up and the kind of words that you use. These are of course relevant to the people that you are. The person that you are breaking up with.
If you are angry and that is why you are ending your relationship, keep in mind, there is really no point of punishing the person or humiliating them. Because, once you are out of the relationship, that anger should not matter anymore, just get it over with. But, if this is someone that you still do care about very much, you have to choose your words carefully. And although, most people can see through the, “it is not you, it is me” routine, that is kind of the way you want to go because you do not want to be breaking up with the person and also telling him all the things that are wrong with them.
So, putting it on you can be a very generous way of handling it. Something very important is to be clear, it is hard because you do not want to hurt the feelings. You do not want to hurt the person that you are breaking up with but you must be very clear so that you both can have closure.
You need to plan ahead, for example, if you are living with someone, you do not want to break up with them impromptu one night, and you realize that you have a lot of expenses to figure out, get your stuff up, finding your place to live, a place for them to live. You need to have a plan ahead and thought about these things before you actually have to talk.
Now, some relationships are very healthy and can turn into a great friendship, but, you have to be careful of a couple of things. First of all, make sure that you both have had closure, and you both have really let go of the romantic side of the relationship. And, make sure that, that is what you both want because sometimes maybe you have move on to the place where you are ready to just be friends, but they are not going to be ready to let go, so just be clear.
In some of relationships are just too intense to be able to become a friendship or at least not right away. You have to on it on that and sometimes the best thing to do is not communicate at all. This is maybe something you should have thought about before the break up occurs. But, something you definitely have to pay attention to and perhaps give people the ultimate space, so that you both can let go of the relationship and move on.
One of the reasons you have to be really sure about the decision that you have made, is because once you actually do initiate the break up with your partner, you have to be prepared for any kind of reaction. It could be everything from anger to really coldness, and maybe a lack of emotion that you are not prepared for. That could be shocking or overwhelming emotion, screaming, crying, you have to know that you have made the right decision in your head and heart before you witness what is going to do to the other person.
Breaking up is never going to be easy, it is always going to be emotional, or hard, or never what we want to have to do. But I hopefully, these tips will help you the easiest way possible.
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