Relationship Answer
Hi, I’m Julie Nise with the relationshipanswer.com. I’ve made a several appearances on the Dr. Phil’s Show and I have training in the methods Dr. Phil uses to work with people. I’ll help you get the results you want.
A lot of people to condense in affirmation down to something very manageable and very easy to implement about how to have a good marriage. So here it is.
One, consider the needs, feelings, thoughts, and emotional safety of your partner first before your own. Marriage is about what you give not what you get. A lot of people get that mixed up.
Two, if you spent even half as much time trying to understand your partners point of view, as you do arguing about the differences and defending your position, you’d find that solutions present themselves much more easily. One of the biggest mistakes that folks make, is you have a disagreement of some kind, which is fair enough, they happen. But you easily get into a mode of defending your position and they defend their position then you come up with some more reasons why yours are so good and they came up with more reasons why theirs are so good and pretty soon, all your doing is 1:06 from getting nowhere.
You don’t have to agree with your partner but you sure do have to understand. So a real good tick to get yourself out of that bad communication pattern and into the right one who say, when you’re in a period of disagreement. You know I really don’t agree with what your doing or what you’re saying, but I sure would like to find out more about why you think it’s so important. That’s a good trick.
Number three, you have to know what to prioritize. Everything doesn’t have an importance of ten. Understand that there are a lot of things that you probably just to need to let go. Most of life is a lot easier if you’d just establish priorities that make sense and or about cooperating and getting along and being loving rather than who’s right.
I specialize in working with couples to fix problems and communication, stop arguments and develop a deeper level of love and attraction that you have before. Type in www.relationshipanswer.com see you there.
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