Matt: Hey everybody, Matt and Tamsen here answering your questions about love.
Tamsen: Okay, here’s the question, Dear and Matt and Tamsen, my husband of right years is not the man I marry. He’s lazy, not excited about going out and we rarely kiss anymore. I’ve complained about it he doesn’t seem to listen. What should I do? Action speaks louder than words.
Matt: exactly! You need to take action what your guy is falling into. It’s a complacent role within the marriage because he doesn’t believe that you’re ever going to leave him, right? He’s going to change because you’re married.
Tamsen: Yeah. In other words you have to let him know that like he’s still on trial so to speak. Like he doesn’t just get a free pass to do whatever he wants, be lazy, not be excited by taking out enough kiss, and that one is probably the one that concerns me the most.
Matt: I know.
Tamsen: You really need to kind of wake him up. I don’t think complaining about it or nagging is going to help the situation but what I do think you have to do is live by example. I mean if he doesn’t want to go out then you go out. If he wants to sit around the house in his underwear, let him do it and keep going.
Matt: I think you need to go out with your girlfriends a little bit more and that will wake him up very quickly. And the kissing—
Tamsen: Yes, you’re not going to stay at home.
Matt: The kissing thing I have no idea because you know Tamsen and I we kiss all the time. I love kissing my wife.
Tamsen: No, what I think you should explain to him now that that is important to you and you know maybe when you’re not around so much he’s going to be more enticed to kiss you. But let us know what happens because I’d be interested with this one and we’ll see if we can go from that.
Matt: Make him miss you. This is the Matt and Tamsen. Thank you.
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