Audra Lowe: All right here's a scenario here at the restaurant with a guy but the guy for some reason spending most of his time texting what do you do. Well our relationship experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fidel have some great advice but this advice here is for a the crack berry addicts out there.
Matt: Everybody Matt and Tamsen here taking your love and relationships question on the road.
Tamsen: That’s right, today were coming to you from Sarah best restaurant and coffee bar at Lord & Taylor on Fifth Avenue. Okay here's a question dear Matt and Tamsen every meal out of my husband is ruined by his Blackberry addiction. He's either on the phone emailing during our dinner conversation, I have repeatedly ask him to turn off his crack berry. But he refuses to do so what can I do to get his attention and not answer the phone while we're out what, what. Who does this sound like?
Matt: Well, yes, I had, I'm a former crack berry addict, I had a bad—
Tamsen: A bad experience.
Matt: Actually my rehabilitation consist Tamsen and just walking out leaving. It, it cured me.
Tamsen: He thought I was actually going to come back and I did not.
Matt: She just left me there are on the line with somebody I really didn’t want to talk to.
Tamsen: It really is a serious problem though and in this day and age you know people can get us anywhere whether it's your iPhone, whether at Blackberry, whether you're sitting there on your laptop so really have to be aware of how rude it is to the other person.
Matt: Its extremely disrespectful and you know what live in the present moment you're with somebody give them your full attention I mean I remember not hearing anything that Tamsen had to say because I was you know addicted to my Blackberry. And I lost got a lot of great conversation we could have had you know and actions always speak louder than words. When you nagging unite and I'm saying the end word, I am saying no mention sometimes considered nagging. Where I can do anything about it, words are weak, actions are strong get out and believe leave he’ll get the message I did.
Tamsen: Yes, he definitely got the message and you know what you can do it in a kind way. Initially have to say something but in the end it's going to be your actions that I mean more than just your words.
Matt: Exactly.
Tamsen: Okay this has been Matt and Tamsen until next time.
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