Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are talking about jealousy for men. Our topic for this video is how to get rid of jealousy. The reason why I record this video is because there are dozens of guy out there who struggle with jealousy issue in the relationships to posses you there, to demanding they get jealous when they see their girlfriend chatting with some other guys.
It can happen into relationship when you are married or when you are not. It can happen in newly stages, you can actually go into this kind of possessive, demanding, and needy mood and this can really be a mess up with the whole fun that you are having with your girlfriend.
This is not a good thing because I see dozens of guys breaking up with their girlfriends, girlfriends breaking up with their guys because of this issue. So, when I was confronted with that within the contact, I have guys coming to me and asking me for solutions, ways to handle that honestly I was a bit lost.
A few years ago, I did not have a clue of what was going on and how to solve that. Now, since then I have been coaching dozens of guys how to stop it, and then I recorded audios, I created a new blog I created a whole program which deals possessing with this issue.
What I did not understand over the last couple of years is that when you focus on it you can solve it. The reason why guys usually do not break through, they do not manage to shift attitude is because they do not focus on it.
It is simple, they think about it, one day they would like to do something about it but, they miss a battle plan. They miss a strategy to handle this issues and that is exactly what I have created in this program.
So, what I want you to do is very simple, if you are a guy who is destroying his relationship because of jealousy, demanding, needy attitudes, you have to stop right now. You have to do something about it.
If your girlfriend already threatened to leave because of that, believe me she is going to do it. Because, living within the context where you feel limited by your boyfriend who is harassing you, or demanding or pressurizing you, or always creating problems or troubles when you go out or when you are at home that is not fun of course.
She is going to break up with you or divorce with you if you are already married. So, you have to take action and shift the behavior. Now, you do not even have to talk about this with her, all you have to do is simply go back to my site, get this program it is a new blog. A set of audios, you have access to the form, access to a whole set of articles on this topic which is going to give you a battle plan.
Okay? It is very simple, when you are fighting with this issue what you miss is very simple, it is simply a battle plan. It is a strategy, it is a vision or pathway on how to solve that specific issue, and you might say, “Wow can I believe ion that? Can I believe that there is a solution?” yes in my opinion, in my experience, from the 80% o guys are able to get rid of most of their jealousy patterns within maybe a month.
If you are really struggling with it a little bit longer, but most of the times it is just a matter of understanding what you are doing. You understand that it is self-destructive for your self, for your life and your relationship because, it is really destroying your life. It is destroying the relationship and the love that you have for your girlfriend, or your wife and what you want is really to shift the pattern.
So, once you realize that the first thing to that is that if there is a problem then you have a pathway. What is this pathway? It is creating new behavior patterns. How do you create them? You train them, and it is not to say whatever, I do not care I stood back and I let my girlfriend be totally free, that is not the point that is not what we are saying.
What you want is to create new patterns that not only empower your relationship and your girlfriend but empower you as well. You want to raise your level of power. You see the thing is that jealousy is not the weapon. It is a weapon that you can use to protect your relationship.
In some situations, it is justified. You are going to use it in a constructive way and it is going to help you maintain your relationship. But, most of the times you are going to use it in situations where it is not needed. Therefore, it is like having a sword in your hands and you go ahead and chop the heads of imaginary enemies.
So, what I want you to do is go back to vitalcoaching.com/jealousyformen.htm everything you need is right there okay? Take care for now and have a good day, bah bye.
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