How to Cope with a Critical Girlfriend

Tamsen: Hey everybody, Matt and Tamsen here with askmattandtamsen.com answering your questions do you send in at askmattandtamsen.com. Matt: Nigel, help us out. Nigel: Hello, today we have a question from Tim in Boston Massachusetts. Tim writes, “My girlfriend is not overly critical of me, no matter what I do is never enough and she damn plays any at all of my achievements. I love her in spite of all these though what should I do?” Matt: You know— Tamsen: What did your hair look like that? Why is your shirt—oh the shirt hairless wriggles? Matt: Chris I live you life Chris. Tamsen: That’s awful, did you shave today? Matt: You see, I didn’t shave, my hair is add but you know what that’s who I am. Honestly I went out with the girl ones that they do the same thing and people do that because they feel secure and they feel that if they don’t put you down in a negative place and actually, you know make you feel and theory them that you're going to live them because you're are better, you're more intelligent, your fun or your look better, you dressed better it’s the way—more fun—it’s the way of keeping the person you're dating to yourself and keeping them at a level that you can handle. Tamsen: Yeah, absolutely this is something that’s clearly insecure with themselves and being critical with somebody else like this is no need for whatsoever and if you have that happening in your life constantly you're going to really start believing in. I mean what you put in is what you put out. I'm firm believer of that and if that’s going in your ear that’s exactly what you're going to start putting out at some point that’s going to make you feel insecure and you're going to start believing those things. So something negative you might not been realize what she's doing you know. You see I need to point it out. Matt: Well, I think it’s free meditated and for her purpose and that’s to make him feel insecure so he doesn’t believe her. I think that you need to tell her that there should be a break in the relationship and you should let her feel what it would be like not to be with you definitely. Tamsen: And I have that whipping boy. Matt: Yeah, so you don’t need of that and plus at times right you're going to start to feel badly about yourself you need to get out and get away from her even if it’s a temporary situation. Tamsen: Yeah, just think about better about yourself. Matt: Right. Tamsen: All right let us know what happens. This is Matt and Tamsen until next time.