Male: She is considered an interpersonal skills coach who helps the singles meet and date compatible people, for her first time on live radio dating coach Kateryna Spiwak.
Kateryna Spiwak: Hi.
Female: You're a dating coach.
Kateryna Spiwak: Yes I am.
Female: Jesus I need you number, I really need you phone number.
Kateryna Spiwak: Well, we can talk after the show.
Female: Can I call you at Saturdays around two in the morning do you have a problem with that.
Male: How about instead of doing it after the show I'm just going to turn over to a billion right now who is currently on attached and you can simply walk through the process.
Female: Of what dating?
Male: Yeah.
Female: Okay, what's on and what's not for those of us flying solo for a valentines day this year.
Kateryna Spiwak: Basically you need to go out and do something you don’t want to be sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself and hugging dust because I don’t think you do—
Female: I like best of Robins actually better.
Kateryna Spiwak: Okay, me too Rocky Road is a big thing for me. Basically, enjoy your life, enjoy your friends and family make some friends to go out with really good friend. Go for dinner, for dancing.
Female: I was going to go out with a bunch of girlfriends and bunch of our gay friends. We’re supposed to answer this one confidence is the key to a navigating the treasures waters of the single scene.
Kateryna Spiwak: So that you can present yourself in a best way possible, put your best foot forward. We only have a few seconds to make a first impression and people will pay attention to our grooming and our hygiene.
Female: Our grooming.
Kateryna Spiwak: Yeah, the way to look of personal appearance. Things like our breath, how we come across others, you also want to pay attention to your body language and the way you communicate and all of that is very important to your confidence when you feel that you do look good. When we look good, we feel good.
Female: Now my girlfriends and I find there is a fine line between acting unattainable and acting confident.
Kateryna Spiwak: Right.
Female: You know what I mean.
Kateryna Spiwak: Right.
Female: So what is that line, do you know what I mean.
Kateryna Spiwak: Yeah, I hear you. You want to act in a confident way but not on approachable you want to be friendly, you want to send signals to guys that you’re approachable and a friendly person. You want to smile and you want to flirt with them, you want to use warm body language. You don’t want to be too cool and too aloof because guys as we know are really afraid of rejection as our women. So you have to give them signs that you're willing to be approached and to talk to them that could make it easy for them to approach you.
Male: Let me play double how to get there, do the people that come to you are they completely helpless socially in up and really have never met anybody. Or are this people they are just simply frustrated at you know the bar thing, the internet thing.
Kateryna Spiwak: Absolutely they would fall in to a ladder category. The people who have been dating for a while aren’t getting the results they want and just need some tips and suggestions in how to get better of it. Maybe they are not sure how to flirt maybe they can’t get through the first date, maybe they're doing something that’s turning other people off and they're not sure what it is. And they just need a few tips and suggestions on how to get out there and do it better.
Female: Well Mad Dog has a nice dating nickname for me why don’t you fill her in it.
Male: She’s the Jerry Sign Filled of DNA, it's desert Mad Dog. It goes back from the wash room his shoes lace is in the floor which means that he’s touched the wash room floor. I can’ be with the man that is a filthy, dirty animal. It turns out he’s got two sisters I cant compete with that, just stuff like that.
Kateryna Spiwak: Okay, or if the guy has ladies hands or whatever.
Male: He had lady hand.
Female: See I don’t think I like that but they do I mean that he known me for five years and been through lots of dates with me—that finds the bet like that I mean is that a defense mechanism or some kind.
Kateryna Spiwak: They all depends I mean I love to believe that if something about somebody really turns you off you're not going to get over it
Female: Right.
Kateryna Spiwak: Let me tell you I went out with a guy once a couple of years he has this really strange odor around his clothes. I thought “What is that” you know they're not mothballs or whatever we were over at his place and he went over to the closet and to get another jacket were going to go for a drive whatever in the country. And I look down and there is a 50 pound bag of dog food at the bottom of his closet.
Female: He’s clothes closet.
Kateryna Spiwak: In his clothes closet, you know interesting aroma.
Female: Strange.
Kateryna Spiwak: So, I made up you know.
Female: So, you didn’t dream about that.
Kateryna Spiwak: No, well I did you know I mean and known to him that it wasn’t the best idea to keep the dog food in a closed closet.
Female: Right.
Kateryna Spiwak: So, he learned from that absolutely.
Female: Now, finally how to escape a bad first date, how do you do that.
Kateryna Spiwak: Well, I know there are some people wanted to just you know dive out and take off and dump the person or get a friend to call them on the cell phone and have kind of.
Male: This is I'm pointing in her, I'm pointing in her for those of you listening at home that cant see me I'm pointing to her. Just spending a half an hour in the bathroom count as during the day, is that common.
Kateryna Spiwak: Yeah, that over do it, yeah.
Male: It's how you do it.
Kateryna Spiwak: Yeah, because guys going to think you're not interested in them.
Female: Not only that spending half and hour in the bathroom in our first date and I came back to the table and he was with the girl by that point.
Kateryna Spiwak: Well, as long as you made it up to him when you came out.
Female: Yeah, I gave him the bell.
Male: So, it's that one way to do it.
Kateryna Spiwak: Well, yeah, I mean you want to be attentive you want to be really interested in the conversation and just be really present.
Female: And when do you get all those level life and nice some friends have been there.
Kateryna Spiwak: Oh, I think that’s just fantastic.
Female: Yeah.
Kateryna Spiwak: I think that being online is one of the best ways too and I told Timmy people nowadays. Even if you're not on there to date specifically you can just mean if people make new friends, new playmates whatever the case maybe.
Male: You know what I do, is when I finally—my wife and I finally go out for dinner we play this game where we pretend were dating then we take away everything that we have, like our kids, our mortgage, our cars, our problems at home and then you take that away and you try to talk to each on a one on one on a date and it's actually kind of hard because you're so wrap up in your married life. And that if forces you to find like the stuff you find out about your partner, because your realizing “Oh, I can’t believe they did that today, the kid’s data or the things about school.” So it is that I think to learn—
Kateryna Spiwak: That’s a sweet man over there.
Female: I mean yeah, I think that’s fantastic.
Male: You have to keep dating even as couple, we would call it like “Hey, it's date night”.
Female: Yeah, absolutely you know I have some good friends who do that too they’ve got two little kids and they make sure that they get out every night on a date. You got to maintain the room out for you.
Kateryna Spiwak: You have to do that don’t you.
Male: I mean that I'm not going flirt with her by email.
Kateryna Spiwak: That’s wonderful.
Female: How you doing, what do you look like, send me your picture.
Male: Kateryna can be reach to 416-762-4267 your website is www.datingessentials.com of course, you can always call us and well pass along that information to them.
Kateryna Spiwak: Excellent thank you very much.
Female: And you're going to give your cell number so Saturday night I could give you a call around three.
Kateryna Spiwak: You’ve got it.
Female: Oh, that’s great thank you so much.
Kateryna Spiwak: And I will be there you for you girlfriend.
Female: Thank you.
Male: And in the bathroom of YYZ, thanks for coming in.
Kateryna Spiwak: Actually your shoe lace saw the floor and I don’t know what to do.
Female: I don’t like it.
Male: You have a good valentines day.
Kateryna Spiwak: Thanks very much guys, you take care bye, bye.
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