Tantrums.
Kimberley Clayton Blaine: You are in the mall and your child throws the dreaded tantrum, or you are on a play-date and they are pushy, bossy, and then lose control.
Toddlers throw tantrums because they have an intense desire to do things, but their mental and motor skills have developed more quickly than their ability to communicate. Because they don't quite yet have the ability to express frustration, they do so by throwing a tantrum.
Tantrums are a part of normal child development. However, there are ways through which parents can learn how to prevent them. There are two types of tantrums: manipulative and frustration.
Frustration tantrums require empathy. Take these emotional outburst as opportunities to bond with your child. Help them out where he is frustrated at not being able to accomplish a task. Encourage your child to put words to their feelings. Identify the triggers and meet her needs immediately. Try not to take your child on terrace or out in public, if it's meal time or a nap time, or if they are physically uncomfortable.
You can prevent manipulation tantrums by planning ahead. Inform your child of what to expect. "Mommy needs to go shopping but afterwards we can get milkshakes. I know it's hard to shop with mommy, but I really need your help." Verbalize and emphasize. "You are mad at mommy because I won't let you get out at the stroller. I am sorry it's taking so long, but we are almost near the car."
If your child gets physically out of control, calmly pick them up and go to the car. Let them know you are here to help and you will wait for them to calm down. Do not engage in conversation. You can choose to ignore a tantrum. If you are at home, this is an option. If you assess that your child is not frustrated but they are actually trying get your attention, you can go ahead and ignore it.
Instead of walking away from the tantrum, you could try the home based approach. Stay nearby on the scene and keep busy. Wash dishes or read a magazine, don't get drawn into the tantrum or start arguing. If the tantrum upsets your harmony or the child wants to get physical, you can walk away or you can say, "this is disturbing my space."
Remember a tantrum will go on as long as they can hold an audience. When they are quieting down, you can say, "I will be here for you, when you are ready to talk." Never punish or engage your child in conversation during a tantrum. Remember, the more control you take, the more resistant your child will be. With support and guidance, it will take you a long way in your temper tantrum prevention effort.
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