How to Deal with Oral Sex Frustration

Dan: How do I get my girlfriend to give me oral? Wow, this is like oral day, I love it. Okay, how do I get my girlfriend to give me oral, he says. Hi, I am 18 -- Well I could be 18 again. Hi, I am 18 and my girlfriend and I have been seeing -- you know what, I don't want to be 18 again. I am 18 and I my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year and are very happy together -- thats always good, being happy together rocks, its just cool. But I don't think she gives me oral often enough -- most guys don't. Like once in the past few months -- just once in the past few months -- lot of guys would be lucky they want to, if you want. I talk to my friends and it seems like I am the only one not getting it -- Jeniffer: Just read the question -- read the question. Dan: I have spoken to her about it and asked why, but at least I am talking, that is cool. Hey, remember straight metro guys can be drama queen. But she just said, do any girls really doing it? Its clean to talking -- and so I didn't talk. Thats where you need to mature her -- and we didn't talk anymore about it, and I didn't want to ask again, since in case she thinks I am nagging -- he is cool. Anyway, I think that if I ask her the right way, then she will, but I would hate to say suck me off, or give me a blow job. As I treat her with much more respect that that -- plus she gets that thrown at her probably. Any ideas what I could say or do to change her mind. Thanks, Adam, in the UK. But we have some many viewers in the UK, thats so cool -- Jeniffer: Yeah, that awesome. Okay, here is the deal, okay. Some women do, yes there are women out there who would love to give blow jobs, okay. Everybody is different and everybody has different preferences, but some even don't. It can smell funny, it can taste icky, it can not be comfortable having some things shoved down in the back of your throat -- Dan: But also as far as not tasting or as far as the taste not really being a match, the flavor being really repulsive to some women, it depends on what you eat also. So different things -- if you just do a quick research on this stuff, different things you can do to actually change the taste of semen. Jeniffer: Yeah, I challenge you - Google, taste of semen -- Dan: Yeah -- no, no really, because depending on what you eat, or whatever, depending on what you eat, your body produces different chemicals. So -- Jeniffer: And everybody says pineapples are really good. I don't know -- Dan: Not getting to something specifically turned in the right direction. Jeniffer: Anyway, talk to her, okay -- Dan: And have a game, a big one -- I am sorry. Jeniffer: We cover this all the time but you got to ask her, okay, that there maybe some uncomfortableness, since that even a word here about even asking her for it -- Dan: But they are talking with just -- Jeniffer: If you are asking her for and she is refusing, then try to talk to her and find that, you know what, don't you like about it, is there something I can do for you, don't you like it when I go down on you. Dan: Yeah, is there anything I can do to make it more pleasurable for you to go down on me and can I do something like that for you that you really like, because I really like that. Jeniffer: Can we return the favors? Dan: Yeah -- Jeniffer: Yeah, because believe or not, everybody thinks that every time those people do when they are having sex, everybody has to love everything and its really not that true because its about pleasing each other, and sometimes maybe you do something that you do don't like quite as much to make your partner happy. Now if its one side within they are always doing something to make your partner happy and you hate it, thats a different deal. But if you are trading back and forth, than thats awesome. Dan: I am sorry, but at 18 when you are talking to your friends, then it seems like you are the only one not getting oral sex every night, they are fool of that. I am sorry, but come on -- Jeniffer: Come on guys, -- okay. They talk more then they do. I am sorry, but its true -- Dan: Why are you looking at me when you say that. Jeniffer: Chances are half of them are not even getting it at all. Dan: Half of them probably never had it. Jeniffer: So there is nothing to worry about what your friends say. Dan: The more they talk, the less there is a substance there is to it. Jeniffer: Yeah, and your sex life is none of their business and quite rightly, their's in none yours. Dan: Absolutely! Jeniffer: So one other thing on why she might not want to do it think of the social stigma, okay, around blow jobs. Its typically thought of something as a prostitute would do or a porn star, and its often considered dirty and demeaning, and its a very submissive kind of thing. So -- Dan: I may need a break-- Jeniffer: There is no emotional -- Dan: I may even vomit. Jeniffer: The other question I have is, how often is often enough, what would make you happy, because if she doesn't know, she cant meet that expectation. It sounds like once ever a couple of months, is not enough, but is it once a day, once a week, once a month, ten times a day -- I don't know. Think and find something that you think you would be satisfied with and actually try to communicate that with her, so that she has a chance at meeting your expectations -- Dan: And I hope I don't regret asking this, but guys, how often its common for you guys? Mean, for you, how often do you get or give oral sex? Jeniffer: I cannot believe you just asked that question -- I sure do want to see the comment -- Dan: No, no, this is an exercise, we are going to try to keep your intelligence, come on guys, work with us-- how often it works? Jeniffer: But leave your comment, yeah, and if have ever found yourself in the same situation, how did you communicate it to your girlfriend and actually get her to do it more often. Dan: Please keep this intelligent. Jeniffer: Yeah, thats one of those better. Dan: Please.