Rebecca Britton: As a parent you want to protect your child, but you can't be in the school yard with them fighting their battles. Hi! I'm Rebecca Britton and welcome to WatchMojo.com. And today we'll be learning four simple rules you can teach your child to help them deal with a bully.
George Manoli: We need to talk to our children about bullying. We need to give our children options. We need to empower them that there are things they can do.
So in the workshops or in the private sessions that I give, I give them four basic rules that we follow.
Number one is that, whatever confrontation your child is going through with the bully, it cannot last long, it cannot. Longer the interaction between your child and the intimidator, the worst things are for your child.
Our second rule is no more than five words and we keep repeating the same words over and over. We know that in a high stress situation the body enters what is called tunnel vision, tunnel hearing.
So when your child answers to the bully, right, leave me alone, don't touch me, back off, I said no, whatever they choose, it has to be no more than five words. Has to be small words and it has to be continuously repeated. Leave me alone. I said, leave me alone. Don't touch, leave me alone. Not getting hooked into what the person is saying. You're fat and your ugly. No, I am not fat. Well I just entered your conversation.
So no. you're fat and your ugly. Leave me alone. I said, you're fat and you smell. I said, leave me alone. Always repeating the same thing.
Our rule number three is what I refer to is the baseball rule. I say it once, I say it twice. Strike one, strike two as in baseball you're out. So you're out meaning, I do something. I'll go get help. I go to my friends. I move away. I turn it into a joke. I hit, whatever, but I do something.
Our final rule is what I call, The Lion or Mouse Rule. I can tell you that as a police officer, I listen a lot more to their body language than to what they are telling me. So here in the lion and mouse rule, it is essential that the message you send to the person who is intimidating you that you're a lion and you're certainly not going to take this.
So through these four little simple rules, we now enter scenario based training where we now get the child to use these rules. We need to push these buttons enough to get them to react in an intimidating situation so that he gets to apply these rules and gets to feel his way through being bully in a controlled environment. So that when he goes to school, piece of cake.
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