Dealing With Gimmes
Mummy I want it, I want it, I want it, please, please, please can I have it? Sound familiar. Say no to your child is never easy. However, there are ways where you can set boundaries where you are not always seen as the bad mummy or daddy. When say no to your child, explain your reasoning and your answer should be consistent with your other behaviors.
When your preschooler demands a pack of gum in the check outline, let her know that you don't have enough money with you for treats, but you will consider it for next time.
Experience shows children do understand as long as you respond honestly and genuinely, if your child continues to nag, you can empathize by saying I know you love gum, so do I, we need milk and bread more than gum right now. Can you help me out and put that back? Once you have said no, stick to it, don't even falter even if they fuss or throw a tantrum .
One of my favorite tactics with my five-year-old son as when he oohs and aahs over a toy in a store. I say, wow! it looks like you really like that toy. I have an idea, why don't we add it to your Christmas or your birthday list. It works every time. To make sure you are not seen as simply the bad guy. Make sure your relationship is open and make yourself available.
Few families nowadays spend time with their children which can cause children to become needy and demanding. Have family fun time, laugh, joke and be silly by being lighthearted and present. You can set healthy boundaries with your children and they will feel that your relationship is based on trust and honesty and not on yes and no.
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