Christine Buck: Welcome to What Matters Most segment with life coach Dieter Pauwels. And last week Dieter we talked about your purpose in life.
Dieter Pauwels: Purpose in life, yeah.
Christine Buck: We don’t have a lot of time as usual because it’s tough but let’s kind of recap what we talked about.
Dieter Pauwels: Purpose is really something that you do. Something unique that you do is an expression of who you really are at your core. So, in order to even discover purpose, you want to create a deeper understanding of who are we, you know, that makes us so special and unique.
Christine Buck: And sometimes it is hard for people to come to terms with, right.
Dieter Pauwels: Yup.
Christine Buck: In terms of connect with who am I.
Dieter Pauwels: Perhaps the biggest challenge Christine is once we discover it, he’s having the courage to go out and leave it.
Christine Buck: Well, you know what’s fascinating, there is someone who’s on the street asking randomly people, you know, what is your purpose. And it’s very interesting what some of the answers were. Let’s listen to that.
Dieter Pauwels: Okay.
Female: Have you ever thought about it before?
Male: Yes. I’ve thought about it a little but it scares me so I don’t.
Female: What do you mean it scares you?
Male: I don’t know I just like some work, considering myself with living day to day, having fun.
Female: And that’s it.
Male: It’s pretty much it.
Male: And you get more, you go into the emotions here and you know you do what you feel like doing because I think what they’re pushing or pulling last—and you know it ends whenever your life ends.
Male: I don’t like notice my purpose.
Male: What kind of question is that—
Christine Buck: He just started drinking before he ask and go answer the question. But you know, it is a tough one that answer for a lot of people who’ve never really pondered it and there are some people right now who are struggling just to survive so their purpose is to survive obviously because they don’t have time to think about this but do you agree?
Dieter Pauwels: I believe that purpose is revealed to us through life experiences. And the way you experience life is really based on how you allow yourself to experience like this on your values and your belief systems. Some of these young guys here, they are living on a different time of their lives and some of them found their purpose very early in life. Some of them like myself it takes a while to discover what this is really all about.
Christine Buck: Is it the one guy. He was pretty honest to answer when she asked him, he said, “It scares me.”
Dieter Pauwels: Yeah. Sometimes when you discover a purpose, it is on one hand so accelerating but on the other hand it’s very scary because of the courage to go out and live, you know, a life on purpose. Perhaps you know, we have to give ourselves permission, permission. When we talk about statements, identity, this is about giving yourself permission to live a life per your mission, per who you really are as a human being. And everyone is so unique.
Christine Buck: Do you think that everytime you’re confronted with take these risks, that that hands to you what your purpose and probably it’s going to be on a bigger sense because if you take the risk, you grow.
Dieter Pauwels: Absolutely yeah, we sense that. And a lot of stuff has to do with these limiting beliefs people have because you are what you believe you are. And if you don’t think much of yourself, your purpose will be very small and like—said, “Playing small does not sort the world.”
Christine Buck: I would imagine you have some clients who tell you that. That they’re too afraid to do this, they’re not good enough to do that and the self esteem issue.
Dieter Pauwels: The self esteem issue, the first thing we really have to do is work around these limiting beliefs that people have. And once we opened up these resources, people start intuitively discovering what they really want to do in life.
Christine Buck: But what if you’d really don’t discover, you just don’t connect with anything that feels like this is what I am supposed to be doing or this doesn’t feel exactly right?
Dieter Pauwels: I think people don’t have—have not done the work yet to really understand how you’re going to get really are. We said last week, there’s no one just like you. Unless we accept that and acknowledge it then we can start living it.
Christine Buck: And feel the fear and do it anyway.
Dieter Pauwels: And if you said, yeah, absolutely. And then if you think about life purpose Christine ultimately, it gives out life direction, assess a fulfillment and it fulfills core human needs like the need to be significant, to belong to something and the need to make a contribution, to leave a legacy. We all want to leave a legacy.
Christine Buck: And do you think the more that you get in touch with it, the bigger it becomes and it becomes bigger than you?
Dieter Pauwels: It’s always bigger than you in a sense that it’s always about other people. It’s not so much about self interest. It’s how can I connect this on what I really like to do, on what I’m still good at. To help other people grow.
Christine Buck: Okay. Well, next Friday—well, actually we won’t be here next Friday next week.
Dieter Pauwels: Take a big off.
Christine Buck: Take a little bit of a day off. But we’ll be there the following Friday. Thank you, Dieter.
Dieter Pauwels: Thank you.
Christine Buck: It’s good to see you today and he’s tune into life coaching and the philosophy along with our news and weather that we have, you can also go to kplr11.com and get a link to Dieter’s site.
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