How to Get Back to Dating as a New Single

Maria Rose: I've been in a longest relationship where I was supposed to get married. And it was a very hard relationship. And three months before the wedding, I left. I was a runaway bride. Now I'm in New York and I don’t know what to do. I guess perhaps I'm a little bit scared, I lost confidence, I have problems, the hopeless. Help me Mama Gena. Regena: Maria Rose, a gorgeous woman is a terrible thing to waste. It’s time to get you back on the playing field. I want you out there. I want you feeling as beautiful as you are. This is a pleasure emergency. I'm going to straight to your house and I'm going to take control of your joy and pump you up. So this is my first sleep over house call pleasure emergency. Maria Rose: Mine too. Regena: I have a gorgeous woman in front of me who has no idea. I can't have you laughing about that. Maria Rose: You got me red now. Regena: This is very gorgeous instrument. We're not going to waste this. So I get what you did was you bailed yourself out of a situation that was paramount to exit in precisely the way you did. You did exactly the thing. What I want to make sure about is that you're not taking that emergency and recreating it right here, right now. Maria Rose: I attract sociopaths. And the thing I see that’s common is that they usually, they’ve all come up to me and the next thing I know I'm getting married. Regena: So this has happened to you before? Maria Rose: Yeah. Regena: You left fiancé before? Maria Rose: I haven't left it, I said no to the other wedding. As soon I was proposed on you, that I was stuck. Regena: So there you are, you relocated, you're in New York City. You have this fabulous new life. You meet a guy, what do you do? Maria Rose: I don’t do much at all. Regena: Have you been dating since you’ve been here? Maria Rose: I've met a couple of people, but I'm not dating. It seems, I don’t know what's going on. Regena: You're in suspended animation. That’s where you are, you're in suspended animation. Maria Rose: Absolutely. Regena: So you want to move to the next phase? Maria Rose: Yeah. Regena: Alright, snug that pad right there. What I want you to do is fill this book, what was his name? Maria Rose: Sociopath. Regena: Alright, let's call him. Give me his first initial. Maria Rose: A. Regena: Okay, perfect. So you want to write, dear A. and then you want to just start get everything down on paper that you wanted to say to A. how he stopped you from your dreams. How he kept you from the love you so righteously deserve. Whatever is on your mind, you're going to just start scrawling, writing, dumping. I got to get it out of this gorgeous body and on to this piece of paper, then we’ll going to have a bonfire. And we’ll dance around the bonfire and then you're free. I want to re-organize you and the way you think about yourself. Because we're just kind of like magnets, us women, we do attract. And right now, you think that you attract losers. And I want you to have the opinion that you attract hot, sexy, sweet men. Maria Rose: That would be great. That would be great. Regena: Do you even buy yourself flowers? Maria Rose: No. Regena: Do you like it when men send you flowers? Maria Rose: Yes. Regena: See, I think the way, to pad the way for men to start sending you flowers. Buy them for yourself. It’s almost like you open a channels for the hoover of you to suck flowers towards you. Let's say you're going to eat dinner here alone. You have a studio apartment. How do you organize it? You’re going to have take out? Maria Rose: Yes. But I sit on the bed. Regena: I might suggest that maybe once a week, you make a little date for yourself. Where you're like, Maria Rose, I want to ask you out to dinner tonight. Would you like to come over to my place, I'm going to order in for both of us. It’s just you though. And then, I want you to get dress up. Maria Rose: Really? Regena: So what we're going to do now is we're going to head to the mirror, because I want you to play with you and just start getting you to practice falling in love with this gorgeous woman that I see before me. Oh, don’t look away from me when tell you you're beautiful. Do you know the only thing you're allowed to do if someone gives you a compliment? Maria Rose: What? Regena: Thank you. Maria Rose: Thank you. Regena: What I want you to do is I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and catch your own eyes and say, you are my strong powerful sexy friend. We're giving up feeling goofy and we're going for being fabulous. I like you to say, sayonara goofy, hello fabulous. Give your hair a little flip. Oh yeah. Okay, now we're ready. Yeah, it’s much better. Maria Rose: You are my strong, powerful, sexy friend. Regena: Yes. I'm going to be happy with that. Now what I want to do is I would love to have a little, I don’t know, a little introduction to your lingerie drawer. I would love to meet it and see what its contents looks like. Oh, excuse me. You're a woman that owns this? Maria Rose: Yeah. Regena: And you’ve worn this thing? Maria Rose: Not for a long time. Regena: Could you wear this for me tomorrow? I don’t care what you wear over it. Maria Rose: Okay. Regena: You can put on your whatever you jeans over it, but I want this on your body. Because I swear, when you wear this, you’ll remember who you are. I'm going to be leaving you in this gorgeous apartment, this gorgeous woman in this gorgeous apartment, and I want to feel like you have the practices under your belt. You feel like you got the practices now to celebrate your divinity and to celebrate your beauty? Maria Rose: Yeah. I realized that I was a lot more shy than I thought I was because I couldn’t even look in the mirror. I’ll definitely be setting the table for myself and I’ll start wearing my underwear more often. And definitely flowers. I think that that’s such a good idea, I just never thought of it. if I got a quarter of what she taught me today and by practicing those exercises, then I know that I would attract beautiful things because she was just divine.