How to Get Men to Talk to You - FOR WOMEN ONLY ;)

Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating successful women and the topic for this video is; How to get him to talk to you? Imagine that you are at a party or social event and you tend to notice that guys that are attracted to you but they do not really take the step to come and talk to you. Imagine you see this guy, he is kind of flirty. You notice that there is interest but he does not get the confidence or have the guts to come and talk to you. So, what can you do about it? Should you walk to him or initiate contact or is there something else that you can do? So, I will give you a few tips here which are really exciting because it will open up new channels for you to interact more frequently and more easily with guys. The first thing to do is to smile, right. To have an open attitude. If you look like you are self-absorbed with problems or dealing with staff. Obviously, it is going to be a little bit more difficult for a guy to feel like it is okay to come and talk to you. It is important to smile. Simply establish eye contact and smile with that person. Establishing eye contact is a very accurate way to show that you are interested, that there is some form of mutual attraction. So, smile and establish eye contact. And the next thing that you have to do is look confident. Embody this sense of power and confidence so that you do not put your shoulders in or you do not feel like absorbed or fearful. It is very important to radiate the sense of confidence. It does not mean that you have to be so super assertive, walk to him or space invading, these kinds of stuff. You can if you are sure of your confidence in a subtle way. Smile and establish eye contact. Now, the next thing that you want to do if he is not taking action is to physically come closer to him, closer to where he is. For instance, if he is somewhere at the other side of the room and you look at him and he is over there and for him to come and walk all the way to you might be sometimes lead to be charging to do that in front of your everybody. Maybe your friends are there and he is afraid to get rejected. So, if you are physically closer, he does not have to initiate contact by walking physically to you if you are already one to two meters from him. It is going to be much easier for him to start talking to you. So, how do you do that? How do you come physically closer to him? It is very easy, maybe he is close to the bar so you can walk to him and get a drink for instance or sometimes you have this free post cards in Cafés, you can go get some of those or you can all together go if you are with a friend. For instance, walk to a place or to a location where it is closer to him and when you arrive next to him, you just establish eye contact, just look at him, and you smile and simply say hi. You do not have to start a conversation yourself. Simply say hi and he will notice and answer back and eventually start chatting to you. You have to realize that many guys are actually quite shy. They do not know to really initiate contact when it comes to women and establishing a connection with them very often. They are left with absolutely no solutions. They did not watch my videos; they do not have this kind of advice, so they do not know what to do. It happens quite frequently. Even very good looking guys, very attractive, they would be sometimes totally at lost with starting a conversation with a woman. They do not know what to say or they do not want to take the risk or afraid to get rejected. So, here it is, right? Get physically closer to him, establish eye contact, smile and say hi and then you wait. You simply stand there and every now and then you just look at him with a flirty look and that is all you have to do. If he does not take action, we will talk about this another time. What else can you must know about this? There are some turn-offs, when you would approach him, there are certain things that you must have to do; one of them is being too loud. I mean, if you had been drinking a little bit and you are coming to his face with a loud attitude that is not very attractive usually. Guys are quite turned off by that and another one coming too strong to him or like with a pushy attitude. These two are big turn offs but otherwise, just be subtle, be flirty and be kind. There are a lot of more answers and topics I will cover in incoming videos. So, make sure that you subscribe wherever you are and I will be back soon with more advices. Take care. Bye, bye