Matt Titus: Hey everybody! This is Matt and Tamsen with Ask Your Tango answering your love questions.
Tamsen Fadal: Okay. Today’s question, “Why does it hurt so much? A few weeks ago, I broken up with the man I was engaged to for five years. Now, he’s told me that it’s for the best that we split up because he wants to have kids and he knows that I don’t. I want to be over him yesterday. Why does it hurt so much?”
Well, it hurts so much because it was five long years of holidays, of birthdays, of emotional attachment, of physical attachment, that’s why.
Matt Titus: Yeah. And you should expect it to hurt for a lot longer. And I hate to tell you that but you have to go through the grieving process. It’s almost like a death but the next relationship you have and you will have one will be with someone that has a common interest of maybe not having children.
Tamsen Fadal: Yeah. Absolutely, I mean you made the right decision because the children issue is a big issue and it’s not something you’re going to convince somebody to change after you’re married for a few years. So, try to heal yourself. Try to take care of yourself first before you jump into another relationship. And don’t try to be over on yesterday because you spent five years together and you have to assume, some of those were good years. Alright, this is Matt and Tamsen with Yourtango.com.
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