Breaking up with someone who you love is a painful experience. We do not like loosing things that we like and enjoy especially when it comes to things that we can simply buy or otherwise replace easily. You cannot go out there and buy romantic connection. It takes time, it takes skill, and it takes faded you of efforts to find and develop that romantic connection with another person.
However, there are few things that you can do to make that break up easier and to get over it faster. Now it goes without saying that as a pretty much anybody else would tell you that when you break up with someone, you should do your best to not spend too much alone and to have group of friends who were supportive or funny, and who keep you in the positive mode.
You also should keep yourself busy, not just sit around your house and dwell on your break up.
There are however, four more very important things that you can do to alleviate the pain from break up and get over it faster.
1. Stop reminiscing on all the wonderful and great things that you have done together with your Ex. thinking about all the special times and all the special things that you have done together, it is like you are opening your wound that just start it healing. It is not going to do anything good for you. It is only going to stay for your ability to get over that person. So, do not do it.
2. The second mistake that people make is believing that the person who they lost was a very special and one of a kind and they are never going to meet anybody like him or her again. Now, almost every person’s dating life in dating history shows that no matter how special that person was who they lost, the next person who they fall for is going to be a very special and very unique in his own way. He is going to be different but he is going to be special and unique. And, that is one of the big reasons that you are going to fall in love again.
3. The third mistake that people make right after break up is that they try staying friends. Now, if you are hurting today, if you are suffering by not being around that person, the last thing that you need just hang out with that person but having that limited status of “friend”. It is only going to hurt you more. What you need right now if you are in pain is the out of sight, out of mind strategy. What you need today is to stay away from that person until you got over him or her.
Once you do not have anymore feelings and anymore pain, you can go back and have a nice friendship without having any feeling of pain and discomfort but for the time being, you should wait and stay away from that person.
4. The fourth mistake that people make and this applies more to women than to men is preceding relationships is investments.
A lot of people say after they break up with someone with whom they have been for a while, “Oh, it was such a waste of time”. You know what? It is never a waste of time. If you love the other person and if you were loved by him or her, it was not a waste of time. The reality is that there is no insurance policy against break ups. Some people break up after being together for a week. Others break up after being with each other for 15 years and having kids and going through a nasty divorce try to divide assets, child custody and all kinds of other things.
There are dozens of reasons why people break up. Some of them are expected and some of them are completely unexpected. So, this is just the nature of the dating and of the relationships.
Lastly, the last thing that you should remember is that if you have recently gone through break up and you are in pain right now, there is nothing that anybody can do or see that will make you get over it overnight. It takes time to get over it. Give yourself a time and do not expect to be healed from that pain that you are experiencing in a second. It is not going to happen.
Like me, other good things, it is a process, getting over the person who you love and who you cared for will take time. But you will get over him because everybody always does and you will move on and you will probably ha
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