Hi! This is Dr. Diana Kirschner with Ask Your Tango, answering your dating and relationship questions.
Today’s question is from Mighty Mouse.
How do I find out where I stand?
I’ve been seeing this guy now for about 8 months. Lately, he’s been letting me down. I fell he goes from hot to cold. Should I try to talk with him?
Well, what you want to do with this guy is create this amazing, amazing experience. And then I want you to tell him that you're busy and withdraw. And then I want you to do it again.
In other words I want you to take over this role of being kind of hot and cold. You're going to be hot and cold and you know what that does? That’s going to make him crave you.
That is going to make him crave you. And I want you to do this for a couple of months and if he’s not craving you by that point, then I want you to have some straight talk with him. You're going to say, “Sweetheart, you know, I need to know what’s happening? I’m going to have the most incredible love in my life. Now you notice I’m saying that, not from a position of desperation but from a position of choice and I’m crazy about you and I hope it’s with you. And if it’s not, so be it”.
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