Welcome to CherryTV.com’s fresh advice. I’m Ducky Doolittle and today we’re talking about how to have bigger, better orgasms. And just to define and orgasm for you, it’s a series of involuntary muscular contractions in your pelvis and that’s true for everyone. Now depending upon how you're orgasm is triggered, whether it’s through your clitoris, through pressure on your G spot or by flexing your muscles, it will have a difference in how your orgasm feels. Like a lot of people say, a clitoral inspired orgasm is more high pitched, shorter muscular contractions whereas a muscle based orgasm is a deeper, longer, stronger. So one thing we know for sure is the bigger and stronger your muscles are the bigger and stronger your orgasm will be, pretty simple, right?
Now to show you where these muscles are, they are in your pelvis and the run sort of like a circle 8 and the muscles that stop and start the flow of pee are part of this muscle group, your vaginal muscles and your butt muscles are all part of this muscle group. And then they also flow out into your thighs on both directions which is why our thighs can be such an erogenous zone. Sometimes they refer to as the kegel muscles or the pelvic muscle or the PC muscles or pubococcygeus muscles, these are all different names for the same group of muscles that are our pelvic platform.
Now, I’m going to tell you a personal story about how I learned about these muscles. It starts out kind of tragic but it ends very triumphant so don’t get too sad as I go into this. My mother was addicted to drugs and consequently I was born with a number of birth defects and one they found when I was seven years old was that my urinary tract didn’t form properly. And they did 13 surgeries on my body and I was in the hospital for an entire year. And through that process because I was so sick, they took a little tube or catheter and they put it in my urethra to automatically drain the pee out of my body and when I was well and when I’d healed up out of this surgeries and I was ready to go home, they took the catheter out and because I hadn’t been using my brain-body connection to stop and start the start the flow of pee, I’d sort of lost the ability to use these muscles. And I had a very beautiful nurse who sat down and explained to me how to exercise my pelvic muscles. And what she said is, “I want you to go the bathroom and let all the pee out of your body.”
Now a lot of people think that you flex these muscles by stopping and starting the flow of pee but the truth is, you never want to stop the flow of pee if you don’t have to because it can cause reflex and send urine back up through your urethra. So, you let all the pee out of your body. It’s much easier to do the exercises this way. And then she said, “I want you to squeeze this muscles.” And you might know this muscles I’m talking about. You might be squeezing them right now. So you squeeze that muscle ten times, do ten flexes and do three sets, so a total of 30 flexes. You do this three times a day or every time you go to the bathroom. Which ever is easier for you to remember and I was a good girl and I went home and I did my exercises every single day and no one ever told me to stop doing the exercises. So I remember it very clearly one day, I’m in the bathroom and I’m doing my flexes and I get to the second set and something starts to feel a little different and before I could get to the third set, bam, orgasm, like a big orgasm, I didn’t even know what an orgasm was. It was really great. And to this day, like, muscles are so strong that I can flex my muscles without touching myself or being touched bring on an orgasm through flexing and breathing which is another good point.
Breathing is a really important part of how our muscles work. Like, when you're trying to get the optimal use of your muscles, let’s say you're doing yoga, you breath and you breath out. Or if you're lifting weights, you breath in and you breath out. if you're having sex with your self or a partner, you want to take in as much oxygen as you can. The more oxygen you can get into your bloodstream the bigger orgasm you'll have. That will literally work tonight to give you a bigger, better orgasm.
Now these exercises when you first start doing them can be a little bit frustrating but the more you them the easier they become and I’m not special in how my body developed. I came from a place of disability and had zero strength in my pelvic muscles and just by being disciplined, got them up to this point.
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