Hey there! It’s Blair, the love guru. And I’m getting ready to go to my yoga class. You see, I’m wearing my gym clothes but before I would, I wanted to share a tip with you today.
So today, we are talking about sperm, yes sperm. You know what I’m heading at here? Who is on your sperm donation list, okay, do you get it? Let me explain this to you. If you’re in your late 20s, in your 30s, maybe 40s there, your biological is possibly ticking, tick, tick, tick, tick. Now, to be realistic about these things, you know as women, we ca only give birth to children to a ceratin age.
So, we have two issues going on here. Number one, maybe there is a no man in your life or maybe there is one that you’re not so serious about or you’re not sure about. So, you have that one issue of like where is my man and then you have the second issue of like, oh my God I want to have kids, I want to have a family but I’m in this certain time zone of child bearing years. So, what do you do? Well, you guys know that I’m always sharing with you ways to be empowered. I want you to be empowered rather than scared on the victim.
Let’s look at that two ways. If you’re the victim, then you’re freak out. You feel a lot of control. There’s nothing you can do, let me go find a man. Hurry up, let me go find a man. I need a man. And you’re—you know it’s that desperate energy that is totally not going to bring a good value to you. You either not going to find any man if you go out worried and when you go find someone quickly here. You’re either not going to find a man or you’re going to find a guy who is just not good for you. So, you have that issue. That’s if you’re going out, being the victim, and you know it’s just so unattractive energy. And you may know that you have an energy you may not be aware of it but you know let’s examine your thoughts if your thoughts are like, “Oh my God, my clock is ticking, I want to find a guy but also I really, really want to have a kid. What am I supposed to do?” So, that’s the victim way of looking at it.
Now, let’s flip it. The more empowered way of looking at it which is what I’m going to encourage you to do which I’d love sharing ways to be empowered with you then what you’re’ going to do is you know you’re at this age and make the decision, do I want to have kids or do I not? You know, you decide that for yourself first and if it’s yes then have a plan. Just because you have a plan, it doesn’t mean that you’re going to implement it but have some guys in mind that you like, that maybe you’re friends with or guys that you’ve dated in the past, that you’re going to ask them to donate their sperm, it doesn’t mean you have to have sex with them. It just means that you know, they’ll donate it to a bank to a donation bank. And then you go pick it up, yeah, so to speak. And you don’t have to be involved in the child’s life. That’s a stuff we could talk about but—so that would be once a way to be empowered. It’s like, “You know what, I know once I hit the age 36 and if I still haven’t met a guy, I’m going to get artificially inseminated.” You know that is one way. It could be someone you know. It could be someone you know now.
And again you know this is a way to be empowered. If you want to have a family, if you want to have a child then you go after. Don’t be a victim and be like, “Oh I can’t raise one without a man.” And sure, maybe it’s you preferred to have a partner and sure it’s preferred to be married or to have a man in your life that you really, really adore, but if you don’t, don’t say goodbye to your dreams. You know the universe supports and love people who take steps towards what they want. You can’t just seat back and again be the victim. “Oh, I really want a man. I can’t find a man.” You know you sit home and you’re crying and you know whatever sure you could have that moment, you know we all have moments that we are feeling sorry for ourselves but then the next step is how am I going to make the choice? How am I going to get what I want? If it’s that you want to have a kid then what are the other options?
So, that’s your tip for today. And I want you to come up with your plan, you know, go think about it after you finish watching this, sit down and be like, “Do I want to have a kid or not? And if I do what is my plan?” Again, it might not be your ideal plan but what are you going to do to empower yourself rather than feeling sorry for yourself that you still haven’t found a guy and you’re in your late 30s or your 40s and what are you going to do? Okay. So, a love to you my friend and I wish you the best in love, bye-bye.
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