Tamsen: Hey everybody, Matt and Tamsen here, okay today’s question is all about mixed signals. I have to tell you, guys have some serious mixed signals and today you asked is he into me and how do you know? How do you know if somebody is giving mixed signals?
Matt: Well here’s the deal, guys are terrified to becoming emotionally vulnerable, so as soon as we start really liking her, we pull back and we go cold.
Tamsen: Yeah, that’s fair.
Matt: Hey, I didn’t—I’m just the messenger you know. I didn’t create the genes they all have. You know seriously, so you know we’re consistent, we’re inconsistent and when a guy starts to really like it, you might see a little bit of some inconsistencies. So be cool with it, let him understand how he’s really feeling inside and then I’ll show you what he—how he really feels.
Tamsen: All right, so some of us those are mixed signals like for example he blows off plans due and then his calling you and his texting you all night long. Completely a mixed signal because he clearly wants to be with you but doesn’t want to be with you.
Matt: Hey his trying not to be too attached but then when his not with you his panicking because he doesn’t know if some other guys are making move and that’s why his calling you.
Tamsen: And how about you’re not with him and then of course he gets you to the third degree as to where you were the whole time which is crazy in mind.
Matt: Well you go out with the girls, have a great time, you know blah, blah, blah and then all of a sudden you come in and his insane. Third degree its like your in the stand.
Tamsen: Well why do you do that?
Matt: Because we want to make sure that your still thinking about us and you know we could be ours if we wanted you to be.
Tamsen: And how about the guy that talks about his family all the time but never brings you home to meet them, she’s going to be vulnerable right?
Matt: Right, but his thinking in that framework so just let him talk, you know actions speak louder than words and when guys really take action then you know you got the floor.
Tamsen: Absolutely, okay this has been Matt and Tamsen, we’re here to answer you questions. Be sure to send them our way until next time.
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