Alex Coulson: So I want to share a very quick story, my first approach and then I’ll get to the needy greedy. I’m going to show you a couple of techniques on make approaching a little bit more easily.
Has anyone here heard of my bus story, my first approach during the day? Okay, cool. I was terrified. I really was terrified. I had a big problem when I was a kid. I can’t make eye contact to people. I had a stuttering problem. And my first approach was on a bus. Every morning I used to live in the country and I used to catch this bus every morning. It took an hour and a half to get from my home to work. And on that bus trip, there was this girl. She used to get on at the same stop very morning; she used to sit two rows in front of me. And I swear to God, I’ll be sitting there on my sit and the girl bee getting on because we’ll be pulling up near a bus the bus stop. The girl will get on and I would just fantasize. This is how sick it is right? But this is like five years ago so it’s alright. She would get on and it was like time froze. It’s like a Hollywood movie and she would get on. Her hair was flapping in the wind and she was always glamorous. She must have been a lawyer or something. She’s always wearing this tight little black suit, nice hair, she has nice heels on, she had make-up on, and she really looked after herself.
And I fantasize, I imagined how locked to get—how sick it as right? Two seats in front of me but the love of my life, she had no idea I existed. And I was fantasizing about our kids, our kid’s names and white picket fence, our dog named Ralph. I was insane. But the thing is I didn’t know any better and your first approach will be the hardest approach. I guarantee to you that. And some of you approached already and you’ll probably realize that, alright.
One day I’ll be reading some sort of 1:56, some of sort motivational news letter. I think its David Diop or something. And it was like something like the motto was “Cease the moment, cease the day.” So get up there and give it a try. And I thought, “Okay, well, today, I’m going to do it. Today I’m going to walk up and I’m going to do my approach because if I didn’t do it today, I’m not going to do it ever.” If you see a girl walking down the street, much better say, “Hey, you’re very pretty.” And screwing it up or not doing too well, it’s much better to try and fail than not try at all. Because you’ll never know, it’s a missed opportunity.
So, I remembered the day, it was about 5 o’clock. I was coming home from work. There was hardly anyone in the bus. It’s like ten people in the bus, right? It’s in a country for God sake. Ad again, she sat two seats in front of me. I sat there, I stared and I just cringed the day like I knew I had to walk up and talk to her. But there are still people in the bus. And I kind of approached people, I kind of approach somebody, “What if I get rejected in front of all these people right? To be rejected out right, to be rejected in a basic form is humiliating itself but to be rejected publicly in front of other people in a confined environment where everyone’s going to hear you, that’s the worst thing ever. That’s the worst thing that could happen and people will be judging me, looking at me, thinking I’m a less of a man. I think, “Okay, well I’m going to do it anyway.
So, I think, I don’t know, God shine on me in the day. Everyone got off the bus. It was just me and her right? Anyway, we started coming to a near her stop and I thought, “Okay, well I better make my move very quickly.” My hand started shaking, the sweats that are rolling down the back of my jacket and I’m thinking, “Oh, God.” You know, the nerves are kicking in now. My legs started buckling so I got up. Has anyone have seen Robocop? Okay. There’s a scene where he gets injured by the big robot rise. That was me walking up to her seat, right? That’s only two seats in front of me. So I ended up walking p and I noticed she actually passed the stop. She didn’t get off. She didn’t press the button. So I sat down and I thought, “That’s a great conversational starter.”
I cringed to this day. I said one of the creepiest things she could possibly say to a girl. The creepiest like you can’t beat this right? I lent over the chair. Now, I was trying o be cool you know? I lent over like a little stiff motion like that. I looked at her with my scary eyes like crazy eyes, you know. And I said, “You’re not getting off the usual stop today huh?” I actually thought I was doing well right? I didn’t know any better. And I actually thought I was getting some move with this girl but I wasn’t. And I can see it to this day the creep of me is going up to ten. It was off the charts. I was creeping this girl out seriously and I was thinking in my head, “Yes, I’m getting laid tonight. Yeah man!”
We started talking, I said, “You’re not getting off your usual stop.” She’s, “No, I’m going to a birthday party” “I like birthday parties. My birthday’s coming up soon.” So, my stop is coming up. I said, “So, I’ll see you around then?” “Yeah, you’ll see me around.” I got up, and I walked away and I’m a big fan of Hollywood movies so I wanted to do the glance back. You know the whole you know they always do like a glance back. So I was getting off. I was on the second step and I looked back. I got off the bus and I never saw this girl again. I think she bought a car.
And I mean, that’s jus a quick story. That’s just so you like. It’s the first approach is always going to be the harder one. Like I said before but you got make the effort
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