Rebecca Bratin: About one in four children in the United States is the victim of Bullying. Hi! I'm Rebecca Bratin and welcome to watchmojo.com and today we'll be learning some solutions for this traumatizing childhood crisis.
What is characterized as Bullying?
George Manoli: We are looking at one person who intimidates another, so he has a certain level of control or domination. We are talking about something that is repetitive, something where I come out of there having a sense of empowerment or control, and the other person comes out of there feeling yucky, loser.
Rebecca Bratin: And are there different types of Bullying?
George Manoli: There's Social Bullying where for example girls are very good at this, right away they ostracize, she can't kept play with us because she doesn't wear the same clothes as we do. Doesn't have the make-up or doesn't swear. Yeah, of course physical, you also have racial, you have sexual, and of course what we're seeing more today is Cyber Bullying, right where we have our Facebook, we are on MSN and this week we are not going to play with Suzy.
Rebecca Bratin: Where is Bullying most likely perpetrated?
George Manoli: Bullying is mostly perpetrated in the school yard, would be the number one area. Then number two would be the hallway. We also have situations of course in the class room, situations in the washroom area.
If we ask children, is there any bullying that goes on in your class? Children will tell you, yes, there's this, this, this, this and this and this happened during X amount of months. When you ask the teacher, is not knowledgeable of a fraction of what the kids are.
Rebecca Bratin: Is it possible to characterize a typically bully and a typical victim?
George Manoli: Yes, it is bullies are not born, they are made. I often try to explain that bully who is there, who keeps doing what he does to, there is a very good chance that they themselves were victims or they themselves were there when something happened and watched and saw, and saw that nobody did anything about it or saw that they can gain something from it and say, hey, if he can do it, so can I.
Now victims, believe it or not, certainly the way we raise our children has something to do with it. If for example, a child who was raised with mommy at home tender and loving care. First day at school or first couple of weeks at school, somebody takes his juice or somebody gets in front of him in line or somebody does something which is totally out of the ordinary for him because he or she has never lived this.
Well, the other child, who is used to this, rough-and-tough type of world, it's just regular day in the jungle for him. Please understand that research also tells us that there is a negative relationship that develops between a child constantly goes and tells the school-yard monitor or tells the teacher, he pulled my hair, he kicked me, he called me fat, he doesn't want me to play. We need to give more of an advice of try to iron it out on your own initially, here if somebody thinks you can do, if that doesn't work then let's go get help.
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