How to Reject Tactfully After a First Date

Stefan Springman, Creator and Host, 'Can't Get A Date' on VH1 Stefan believes (and rather bluntly states): Men get rejected more than women do because they do most of the asking out--and get turned down a lot. Dating is a 'cruel sorting process,' everybody’s looking for the best deal they can get. It’s a marketplace. If you think you’re worth more than someone else thinks, it hurts your ego. Should a woman who is rejecting a guy put him off politely with a little white lie, like, 'Sorry, I'm busy?' No, don't put them off. They'll just call again. If you're not interested find a way to tell them that, such as, 'You're a great person but just not my type.' Put an end to it. Men are not good at honestly and politely rejecting a woman. They tend to just fade away. It's not fair, it's not nice, but it's the easy way out. If you've had more than a date or two, however, that's just not acceptable. You are owed a further explanation. If you call him, and he doesn't return the first call, he's not interested. If you call again and he does return that call, odds are pretty good he's interested in something you're not, i.e., easy sex. There's nothing fair about dating. It's a terrible and awkward thing, but it's also glorious.