Sun Tzu’s three strategies for how to talk to women, hey this is Carlos Xuma and I thought I would share a little bit of some very powerful ancient philosophy with you today. Have your heard of Sun Tzu, his one of the most famous military strategies of all time. His book, “The Art of War” has been used in every conceivable field of education from Harvard MBA programs to corporate training and I actually have been using a lot of his philosophies for years to teach guys the basics of how to approach woman and how to talk to woman more effectively.
Sun Tzu was probably also the world’s best pick up artist, no joke here. I want you to think about it for a second. The guy was an incorporable military strategist and arguable the wisest battle technician for all time. Legend has it that the key of Wu tested Sun Tzu skills by commanding him to train a harem of 360 concubines into soldiers. Don’t ask me how the king finds time for all those women but it’s a high quality problem in anybodies book right? Well this was no small task for Sun Tzu as you can probably imagine. These women were basically hurled into quick military service just for him to provide a demonstration of his knowledge and battle expertise and he passed with flying colors. So what does this have to do with you and dating and talking to women?
Well the same laws and rules that apply to military conflict also apply to approaching women. In fact, I have no doubt that if Sun Tzu were alive today; he probably would be a total stud with women. Now here are Sun Tzu three essential laws of seduction strategy, they’re actually his military strategy that I plucked and decided to use for you pick up skills and for your ability to talk to women. More importantly, these three laws will help you with how you talk to women okay. So Sun Tzu three strategies are number one, know and use your strategy but don’t plan. You know we make a lot of plans in our lifetime. Why do we go through all the effort to plan? Well we plan in order to remove risk right?
The logic is that the more you prepare for something the more likely it is it should be ready when the unexpected comes along. There’s a problem with this though and I’ll sum it up with a very famous saying that you might have heard before, “No plans survive fist contact with the enemy.” Meaning that the first time you encounter that which you’re planning for, inevitably your plans have to change and nowhere is this more true than in leaning how to approach and how to talk to women. The difference between a plan and a strategy is simply this. Plans are rigid, fixed, strategies are fluid, flexible, you simply can’t afford to plan too much. What you need is a strategy that works for you and will not lock you into one path with no options.
Now I know the terminology might seem a bit confusing so let me give you a very specific example here. Planning for how to talk to women, have you ever had a conversation that you rehearsed in your head? Maybe even looked up some lines or got a routine and wrote it down and you found some very clever things to say right and then you get in front of a woman and your mind goes completely haywire. The whole situation goes crazy, you lose control and then you panic. The problem wasn’t memorizing a few things to say, it was when you locked into having to say in a certain way and in a certain order and then when she interrupted or maybe didn’t respond the right way or the way you were expecting you got all thrown off, why? Because your strategy should have been to just talk about the subject as a way to connect with her, maybe it was talking about your dog. It was when you decided you have to use a little script that got to be too rigid and you lost your connection, you over planned, plans are rigid, strategies are flexible.
Okay Sun Tzu’s strategy number two for how to talk to woman is see the battlefield. This is one of those rare gems that I didn’t understand the first time I heard it, it wasn’t until later on that I realized this is probably the most important dating tip I have heard in years. A great military leader once stood in front of a group of cadets and he asked them what they thought was the most important key to military success. They came up with a ton of brilliant answers as you can possibly imagine, he went on for nearly hours but in the end he sounds them all and just said this three words. See the battlefield, what he meant by this was when you can really see the terrain you’re dealing with, when you can see the enemy and there use of the battlefield and you can grasp what you have to work with and understand it. You’ll have a truly powerful military awareness that will lead to victory. For you as a dating strategist, dare I say a general; you must have an awareness of the dating terrain you’re dealing with okay? You need to know your enemy, which are not women. Your true enemy in this arena is yourself, that’s right, most of the problems guys have with women have nothing to do with women at all.
Their true challenge is in managing their own self-control. Knowing how to handle conversation and simply not doing the things to turn women off. Success and learning how to talk to women is actually more about not making mistakes like bragging. Talking about other women in your life and asking the wrong questions. It really is that simple but it may not always seem all that easy.
Sun Tzu’s strategy number three for how to talk to women is know when not to fight. Sun Tzu once said, “To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence. Supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemies resistance without fighting.” In other words, you don’t have to dominate or tramp to win in the game of dating and seduction. All you have to do is simply know how to handle the woman’s energy and guide it to the goal you both want. In martial arts, I teach guys how to block first because that’s the simplest way to avoid getting hit, besides avoiding being attacked in the first place obviously but blocking is a very unsophisticated technique. Far better is to redirect in other words steer your opponent’s energy away from you.
Knowing when and how to not take action with women, when not to talk, when not to respond to her is actually the pinnacle of being the alpha male with women. Guys tend to get caught off feeling like they have to respond to a woman when she asks a question of him, very often you communicate more masculine power when you choose not to respond or react to her. By doing this you show her that you do not need her approval. A woman’s resistance to you will melt when she feels that you’re not trying to get something from her and you can show her a fun time risk free. That’s probably the key to how to talk to woman and the best part of attracting women with my real game is you don’t have to force a woman or trick a woman to get her interested in you. And that’s the real key to natural gain, if you’ve been working on your own abilities with women and you’ve been seeing some success but it hasn’t been as quick as you like or maybe you just like to take to the next level. I have to encourage you get one of my advanced programs, one of my advanced dating programs that will put you well ahead of the pack in terms to success with women.
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You probably will not meet her in a bar okay, it’s just the fact of life, very few guys actually meet their girlfriends in a bar. I think its less than 5%, most guys meet women from friends of friends, at parties, coffee shops, stores, bookstores, out door venues, things like that. And when she comes along, are you going to be ready to say the right thing at the right time? That the question you have to ask yourself, I have a program that can do that for you with live examples, video demonstrations, and a complete model of how to approach women from start to finish and meet them and take it to the next level.
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