How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex

Okay, you guys remember Scarlet right? The preacher’s daughter. This is another question from her and just a refresher, she grew up a pastor’s kid, one that really love to talk about sex or anything to do with it. Consequently, she grew up not getting any sex education and she knows very little about it and that is where we have so many teenage pregnancies and such but I will get off that path, that pen will slow you a little bit. Down not the sofa— At the sofa specifically. Okay, but anyways, so she has got questions and she does not really feel like she has anyone to talk too so she came to us which hey that is cool, we will help you, we will try anyway. Okay, so this is the second question we got from her, it says. Sometimes I feel like my husband does not know, this is coming from a pastor’s daughter by the way, sometimes I feel like my husband does not know what hell he is doing. I find it hard to talk to him about the stuff, you know, the sex stuff like condoms and lube and all that stuff, what do I do? Would you like to talk about the fragile male ego? Oh I got a piece of ice. More cognac and ice. In case you guys, we have to share with you guys. We are celebrating today, there is no raspberry and martinis, we went there right for the cognac because we are celebrating, we have passed a million view on YouTube this month for the first month so we are celebrating. There is a little bottle of Corquase XO that was sitting around for this special occasion so Jennifer dear. And so we are enjoying. Here is to more fun on YouTube. So, anyway, back to Scarlet and the fragile male ego. And the ever fragile male ego. As for the bigger and tougher they are, the tinier and they are more fragile that little ego is. Yes, the tougher the facade, the more fragile the ego. And that is because the whole macho thing that is the problem in our culture today. Men can have feelings and the pope spoken, it is very eloquently dividend. Okay, the male ego is unfortunately very very fragile in our society today because boys are not permitted to have feelings and be sensitive. And so guys are very very touchy specially when it comes to their sexual performance. No because there is so much pressure on them. Yes, there is so so much pressure on them, the guy has got to be tough, the has to do everything right, he has got to be macho and all this stuff and it is really hard for a macho guy to hear that he is doing it a little bit to the left and she really wishes he would do a little more to the right. That as girls, we have to be very careful on how we approach this topic. Yes, and really, I am not understanding why, why doing something a little different in bed should really impact your sense of self esteem and self worth. But unfortunately, it does for so many men today. So— In words, we are going to go about that in more detail in the question from Scarlet because we actually get to see who is asking, how we talk about that. This is part of the Scarlet trilogy? Yes the Scarlet trilogy. So do not criticize him, the short version is do not criticize him but tell him what you would like to see. Yes, that sounds like you are having a real hard time even bringing up the subject and you know, how do I say this? You need to get comfortable with your body first, be comfortable telling him this feels good, that does not feel good and as far as talking about condoms and lubes and toys and whatever you want to talk about, it is reasonable, talk to him but bring it up about you know, your feelings or you know, shoot, I do not know what is your relationships like but if you want to talk about condoms, go buy a variety pack of condoms and throw them all over the bed and tell him to pick one, right? Refreshing mint. You are just talking about this the other day, the variety pack, you know, this chocolate, banana or strawberry written refreshing mint. My whole point there is make it fun. And go shopping together, literally you guys can go shopping together for some toys. I think a hurdle that they are having is that they just cannot talk ab